I Need A Nice Way To Ask For Money Gifts.

Thank you all who tried to help with my request and to those of you who just went on with how rude it is. Well maybe you should trying having a dream wedding and honeymoon with three children to take care of and a wedding to pay for. We did the dollar dance made a nice sum of money. We didn`t register for gifts we just had family pass word or we told guests they could get whatever they liked(that was to the people who asked what we wanted). Everything went over really well. The wedding and honeymoon was a success, infact two of my friends who married after me loved the way we did things and did the same with theirs. Thank you all for taking the time to post your opinions.

Well, I`m glad it worked out for you....but you really don`t know what people said behind closed doors! So two more people who don`t care about manners, ediqutte, or tradtion followed in your footsteps. What concerns me is that these people with no class will follow in your footsteps and think it is ok. Bad manners are never in vogue though some people think they are above everything. Why was it your guests problem to pay for a nice wedding and honeymoon for you? I believe you should live within your means. You can have a nice wedding for any budget if you try, but some people think that the world owes them.

I simply can`t feel sorry for you because you want a dream wedding and honeymoon -- and you have three children. You need to set a budget you can afford with your children`s needs in mind and then plan a wedding within your means. It`s not your guests responsibility to fund your wedding and honeymoon. People who can`t afford to have a `dream wedding and honeymoon` DON`T!!!! They do what they can afford.

You`re tacky!

There IS no polite way to ask for money!!!!!

I can not believe all the rubbish you got about that, strange... I have been to a few weddings where the couple did not register and when I asked around, as one would do, I was told that "The couple would prefer monetary gifts in lieu of material gifts." Fine by me...

We offered her the "ask around" option but she obviously didn`t take it, instead putting the request for money on her invites. I agree with Maddie, even though it`s all said and done now. No matter what your situation you never rely on guests to help pay for your "dream" wedding and honeymoon. But for future brides, the way Frankie found out about wedding gifts is the right way to go about it! Your guests will ask! Do not sacrifice etiquette for any reason by asking for money on your invites. Second marriage, three kids, moving overseas, you simply can`t do it. In the name of grace it just isn`t proper.

My friends just got married and they had most of everything. They registered for a few things but created a web site that had how they met, etc and asked if you would like to contribute to their honeymoon. For example someone gave them a $100 and said this is for horseback riding on the beach. It worked out perfect, almost all of it was paid for and nobody thought it was cheap or ghetto. Also a ghetto way is that Bed Bath and Beyond takes gifts back that people bought there and gives you cash back!! However you need to set a realistic goal fianancially for your wedding.- good luck

I don`t think the original poster put anything on the invites. She said that the people that asked found out that they need money. They did not put any specifics on the gift in their invites.
I am against asking for money too. However,...
People please start reading the post and comments before attacking someone. That is rude also.

Bride
My response was referring to "We did the dollar dance and MADE a nice sum of money"....prior to this post there was also a controversy raging about that. Before anyone jumps in let me explain my position on this also. I am all for the Dollar Dance if indeed it is part of your culture but when people are on here asking how to do it, when to do it, etc....this tells me that it is just another way of shaking down your guests for cash. I believe it as tacky as begging for money. Also when the poster writes we don`t know how difficult it is to have 3 kids and try to plan a wedding. I believe that is their problem and not their guests.
I have said it time and time again, if you cannot afford the wedding scale it down to what you can afford!

I personally hate shopping for wedding gifts. Most(not all) couples that are engaged to be married have a lot of household items already. People do not bother to follow the registry properly and end up buying the same thing that other people bought already. A gift whether it is tangible or not is a gift. A dollar dance is the same as asking for money.

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