MARRING YOUNG

Jennifer - wait to get married. You need some serious help with your education before you should think about getting married and starting a life with someone else. You can`t spell and can not put a sentence together to save your life. You use words inproperly and make NO sense.

WHATEVER...

Jennifer,
Older usually means wiser.
People on here aren`t trying to hurt your feelings by telling you to wait for marriage and to get an education. They are trying to stop you from making a big mistake. You may love your fiancee, but food and a home don`t come from love. You need an education and security to build those. Love is extremely important, yes, but without a sound financial future, all you`re asking for is a lifetime of struggle. Most couples who divorce do so because of arguements over finances. From someone who has been there (same situation as you), take it from me, wait. (I`m 25, not 50 if it makes a difference). Go to collage, live by yourself, have all the experiences that a young woman should have. There will be plenty of time for marriage later. If you and your fiancee truly love each other, it won`t hurt your relationship any to wait a few years. In the 5 years following high school, people grow so much. They change and find out who they really are. Without allowing yourself to do this before you settle into marriage, you are setting yourself up for failure. You need to allow him, and you, the opportunity to truly find out who you are. Do yourself a favour and wait. Ask yourself as well, are you wanting the marriage or the wedding? If you don`t understand what I mean by that, then you shouldn`t be getting married. Think about it, marriage isn`t some childhood game, it is a serious committment for the rest of your life. Ask yourself truly if he is who you want. If you can answer yes, then set a date, for 4 or 5 years away. This gives you all the time in the world to be sure.

I just wanted to share my big mistake of getting married to young. It was the day after my 18th birthday he was 19 and we went to Vegas. I knew the first year that it was doomed, but I held in there because I didn`t want to be a statistic, you know a divorced woman. I stuck it our for 6 years and 3 months to the date. We are still going to court for various financial things, which he is still the immature one. What I am trying to say is that you have no business getting married at 18 because you have NO idea who you really are, and as great as it may seem in the beginning, it will get worse and worse until you feel like you are being smothered because you never had the chance to figue out who you are and what you want....give it some time..K-

Good Luck PS we didn`t even have kids and it is still this annoying to get out of a mistake marriage....

To everyone thank you for responding...i understand about the eduacation, i do plan on starting my education soon...but it is really hard since i have a son he is 2 months...I know you guys are right...thanks again

I don`t think it matters how old you are when you get married. I have been raised to believe that candles on a birthday cake have nothing do do with maturity; rather, life experiences do. Like Jennifer, I am only 18 and am getting married on April 16, 2005. Granted, you`re right, education is very important... I`m in school working towards my doctorate in English but school isn`t for everyone and some people are just happy living "normal" lives. Thanks! All my love, Valerie.. And good luck to everyone who is planning a wedding... I know it can be hectic!! :)