Wedding Reception - Kids Included Or Not
Curious as to what others are doing in regards to children at the wedding. Are you allowing all guests to bring children, or are you having no children or are you making an exception and having a few, please advise....
I am the bride and I have a 2 year old daughter who will be my flower girl, my little nephew will take place as ring bearer - I was planning to have my button at the wedding because she needs to celebrate her new family. My nephew will be getting picked up by his father at the beginning of the reception. My cousin emailed me and asked if little ones will be at the wedding (knowing I am sure that my daughter would be included). She has a son who will almost be 3 and will have a 2 month old baby. My original thoughts were just to invite adults to reception by just including their names on invitations. I hadn`t fully decided but really can`t afford for everyone to bring their children. I had told my cousin that we weren`t planning on having little ones but those in the wedding party, she then informed that unless her kids could come, she wouldn`t be able to make it. I just wanted to hear other peoples views or opinions on this, many thanks!
Posted by Denise; updated 10/23/03
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Hi There :)
We are in the midst of planning our wedding and are trying to figure out how to break the news to my cousin and my fiance`s sister that we would like to have an adults only reception. The guest list for the event is very small (only about 40 people) and for a reception we are just having a nice, elegant, candlelit 7 course meal at a very fancy hotel. The sister and cousin`s babies will be about 15 months at the time of the wedding. We would really like this to be a classy, relaxing event for all involved. We both love our nephew and my second cousin; but we also know how unpredictable toddlers can be .......and what a handful they are. We have offered to pay for a babysitter for the children during the ceremony and the dinner - a hotel staff member who would babysit in the parent`s hotel room (most guests are from out of town and are staying for the night at the hotel as well) - but this is apparently unacceptable to the sister (doesn`t want to leave the child with someone she doesn`t know)....... I don`t know what to do!!! I would love to just give in and say to just bring them along, but at the same time I how distracting it would be --- The dinner only starts at 7:00 - which is usually the child`s bedtime ..... So what happens when the baby gets tired and cranky??? Do the parent`s have to leave as well??? My fiance`s mother has offered to stay with the baby in the hotel room (she lives far away and doesn`t see him often) - but that would mean her missing almost all of our wedding dinner!! Any advice would be appreciated!!! I don`t want to offend or hurt anybody - but I just don`t think that the type of wedding/reception we are having is appropriate for toddlers..........
Thanks, Mae :)
Posted by Mae; updated 10/23/03
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I just don`t get some people. They think it`s rude that YOU are inviting who YOU want to invite to YOUR wedding, but they don`t think it`s rude to dictate to the host who they should/shouldn`t invite? If she`s going to skip your wedding because her precious little drooler isn`t invited, so be it. If she wants to tell you who to invite, she should host the reception and pay for it herself.
Posted by zitiqueen; updated 10/23/03
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For once I agree with zitiqueen, but not in such a harsh way.It is your wedding, you can have who you want. We are having children, though as our responses are coming in I see that many are opting not to bring them.
(A secret yeah!) But if you don`t want them that is you and your fiancee`s call, no one else`s. On the inner envelope just don`t include the names of the children or & family and everyoone will get the idea! Good Luck!
Posted by Bethy; updated 10/23/03
