Sweet 16 Candle Ceremony

I want to have a candle lighting ceremony at my sweet16, but i also want my party to be more oriented around my friends, and less my family. (grandma doesn`t need to be dancing with my friends at 11 at night...)
I know, traditionally, your supposed to have it be
"*The first candle is for your parents
*The second is for your siblings or grandparents
*The third to sixth is for the rest of your family
*Seven to fourteen is for your chosen friends
*Number fifteen is for your best friend/ friends
*The sixteenth is for a particular guy that is special to you, like a boyfriend or a best guy friend
*Number seventeen is an option candle. You can use this as an inspirational candle."
But i was wondering if there was a way around having AALLLLLL my family show up...
Thanks(: