Help!! The Only Gifts That We Need Is Cash

I`m in the same boat. I`m glad you asked the question as I have found some good ideas from reading everybodys comments. I dont think there is anything wrong asking for monetary contributions, come on it`s 2003. My parents are paying for everything so why not ask for money rather than end up with 10 toasters, 15 kettles ect. Hope the wedding went well and you ended up with lots of cash to spend on yourselves

If you have taken time to read the 100`s of other post just like this one you will notice that unanimously it has been voted that this is rude. People will get offended. You can register with American Express which people can get you travelers checks or the one use credit cards for your honeymoon. Generally travel agents have registries thier also.
Or have your bridal party or parents pass the word around that money or gift certificates from the grocery store is what you need. You do not need to ask for money.

Kim is 100% correct. Asking for money at a wedding is never acceptable regardless if it`s 1945 or 2003. Manners and proper etiquette do not go away with time.

Asking for ANY type of gift is inappropriate. Including a registry in your invitation is truly tacky as well. You`re the HOST and gifts should be welcomed but not expected. You say you have everything you need so there should be no reason why you`re asking for gifts at all. Monetary or otherwise.

Just relax a bit girls, god its YOUR DAY so live it up. Why not ask for what you want. I`m sure everyone coming to my wedding would want the best that is for me, and that is CASH. Most people ask what you need so why make up some bullshit story and say oh maybe another set of towels to add with the other 50 sets I got for my engagement present. Sorry but thats not me! I`ll say what I think when I think and if anyone asks before the invitations go out requesting monetary contributions, thats exactly what I will be telling them. Saves alot of hassles. You know you are going to get presents so why not ask for the cash. Have you ever been to a wedding and not taken a present? I dont think so. I would gladly give cash instead of a present. Expecially if thats what the bride and groom wanted!

I agree it`s your day - but I would not recommend asking for money in your invites! That IS tacky. If people ask - then tell them you have everything you need as you already live together, they will most likely then give you cash. DO NOT PRINT IT IN YOUR INVITATIONS!!!!

The only rude thing around here is the way you girls slag others for asking a simple question. She didn`t ask if it was rude, she asked for wording on the invitation. If you can`t answer her question, don`t respond!

Now back to the original question......I guess the only way to do it is to make it simple. Something like `monetory gifts prefered`. Something like that.....if they need more information they will ask.

Helping people with a little proper etiquette is never rude!

V, maybe you should go back and read what the original poster asked. She asked for wording for the invitiation and then specifically stated she did not want it to be rude. There is absolutely no way to word gift information on your invitation without being rude. Gift information and requests have no place on an invite.

Ladies, obviously some people have no social graces what-so-ever. If some brides feel it is appropriate to ask for money at their wedding, then let`s all sit back and allow THEM to look like fools -- because they will. If they aren`t smart enough to realize that it is VERY TACKY to ask for money or gifts at all -- then they certainly aren`t willing to listen to what proper etiquette really is....

The rest of us will never mention money or gifts (as it should be) and look like the polite, well-mannered, considerate brides that we are.

The only fools here are the ones who think it is TACKY to ask for money. Yeah 20 years ago it probably would have been improper to ask for money, but times have changed and will continue to do so.
And same goes as for what was said before if you dont have an answer to the question then fuck off!
Im only replying to get this topic straight IT IS OK TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT, MONEY, PRESENTS, WHATEVER. Those you dont like it piss off!

You should copy that and put it in your invitations. Then take all the money you get and apply it towards charm school. You`re going to need it.

In the meantime, see if you can find even one reputable source that backs up anything you`ve said. Sorry darling, but manners haven`t changed in the last twenty years and I doubt they`ll change in the next twenty.

Asking for money will never be proper or acceptable; people who do so are rude. Obviously people like you wouldn`t ever understand what proper etiquette is, that`s obvious by your language.

Well everyone has their own opinion i agree. Rude, yeah i might be, but wake up to your fucking selves. And if you have a proper look, some people are willing to help with wording on asking for money. They all dont think the same as all you other prim and proper, etiquette this, tacky that fuckwits, so piss off!!

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Kim,

Forget Kay. She`s the same loser who keeps giving her "bad advice" on every message board.

I do applaude you for telling her like it is.

I was unware that advising people of proper etiquette is now considered `bad advice.` Honey, I`m not the loser -- look in the mirror.

You ladies are ridiculous, I can`t believe your language and your lack of common decency. Kay and Ann are two of the ladies on this site that provide GOOD advice. These two brides obviously have been brought up correctly and know what is proper etiquette. They are simply trying to steer others who do not have manners in the correct direction so that they don`t look like fools at their wedding by charging people to dance with them and asking for money as a gift.
I am a wedding planner and KNOW the business and know etiquette inside and out. There are three golden rules of hosting a wedding:

One: you never include registry information in the invite.
Two: You never ask for money
Three: You don`t do the dollar dance

If some of you brides opt to not follow these guidelines, then that is your choice. However, it will be rude and offensive to your guests. Although most guests would never say that to you, but I assure you they will be thinking it and discussing it at your wedding reception. Rather than have them focus on how wonderful the day is, they will chit-chatting about how tacky you are making such a special day.

Who made you the expert? Obviously you are a loser if you have nothing to do but be on the message boards ALL DAY answering questions that NO ONE asked. You completely miss the point on every message board. You may know about etiquette but trust me you know NOTHING about comprehension.

I`m sure you wouldn`t be as "outspoken" in person as you are hiding behind your computer.

I`m not going to be petty and continue to argue with a trifling skank like you.

There you go again, Lisa, firing the last insult as you scramble to get the last word in by telling us not to post anymore. Insecurity at it`s finest.

Kay,
I invite you to leave this board with me. These girls are too immature for their own good, and probably shouldn`t be getting married. I hate to hear how they argue with their future husbands! They fight like grade-schoolers! "You`re stupid" "No, you`re stupid-ER" "No, you`re a dummy head" "My dad can beat up your dad" "Poo on you."

It reminds me of that old saying, "pot calling the kettle black." They hurl insults at us and then tell us not to say anything or post again or that we should find something better to do than sit in front of a computer all day. Hmmm...

I was going to let it go after the dollar dance post fiasco but then I read this one and I can`t take it anymore!

And watch the response to the fact that I`m going to leave...they`re going to post, "Good, we don`t want you around here anyway! Etc. Etc." Nah nah nah nah nayh nayh...