Cant Afford A Wedding
My boyfriend proposed to me and i was so excited he and i have been together for 2 years a year of that we have been living together the problem is i dont know if i will ever beable to afford a wedding you see i am the most stable person in my family i have been suporting my younger sister older brother and parents for the past several years i have had custudy of my yunger sister for the last 5 years my brother lost his job in nov and has been staying with me and my fiance sence and my parents live in a trailor i pay for so how am i going to save money for the wedding i want to have my fiance has been more then supportive being has i carry around my siblings and work almost constently i never even thought i would ever get married and now i dont know if i will be able to i love him so much and if i get married i want it to be beautiful
Posted by Rina; updated 04/08/10
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You need to STOP taking care of adults who should be taking care of themselves. You think you are helping when, in fact, you are enabling their behavior. You actually disable them from being able to do it for themselves because you make it too easy to sponge off of you. You are doing NOBODY a favor.
Get a grip on this situation. When you really examine it all, you will see that you are probably a bigger problem than they are because you are keeping this ridiculous behavior going when you are probably the ONLY one who can stop it!
Ask Dr. Phil! There has to be some kind of payoff for you. Either it makes you feel good or important or something but believe me, your behavior is just as bad as theirs. When you finally cut them loose and they start taking care of themselves, you will be so happy.
If you wish to help a minor who can`t do differently, then I would admire that, but not adults!
Posted by Linda; updated 04/22/10
