How Should I Word It?

I agree with the ticket selling idea if you think marriage is about money. Otherwise be gracious and accept what your friends give you. It`s all or nothing. You either show appreciation for gifts or you offend the giver. People put some of themselves into what they give, good or bad, they`re invested. Also, I`ve always thought that registry was a commercialization of weddings tantamount to the deplorable zoo that christmas has become. Maybe your bridesmaides should be elves!

I`m hoping to receive money myself for my upcoming wedding. Most people realize how much spending is involved for the bride and groom on the wedding. For that reason lots of people give money these days. On the invitation you can state that there will be a "wishing well". That`s what a friend of mine did and I didn`t think it was rude at all. Good Luck.

Alligood,
A gift registry is a list of stuff that the bride and groom would prefer to recieve as gifts. Why would saying you want money be any different? A lot of people ask for money as gifts. It`s not rude at all!

I like the wishing well idea as well.
Good luck!

Asking for money is RUDE!!!! gift info should never be on an invite. Any info, registry, or money requests on an invite implies that you expect a gift. A gift is a token given, not an expected thing.. If you are inviting people for the gift (or money), you are inviting them for the wrong reasons. If people ask, tell them by word of mouth, however, you will receive gifts anyways. Be happy that people cared enough to do so. It is rude and disrespectful to tell people what to give. Just be thankful for what you get.

You don`t ask for gifts. You don`t ask for money. You don`t ask for anything. Your guests will ask YOU if they want to know what you want. If they do ask, you may tell them. If they don`t ask, then they`ll give you what they want to give you and your job is to be gracious and thankful. It`s not up to you to dictate to them. And for the love of god don`t talk about gifts in your invitation.

Oh my dear, NO! You cannot, CANNOT mention anything about what gifts, monetary or otherwise, you expect in the invitation. What some brides don`t understand is that gifts, again whether monetary or otherwise, are completely optional. YES, most guests will bring gifts or enclose a check in a card. The whole purpose of gifts was/is to help young couples, who went from their parents house to marriage, establish a home. Since a lot of us have already lived on our own or together, we have a lot of what, say, our parents would have registered for (blenders, toasters, dishes, etc.). These days some brides think that registries, or lack thereof more specifically, are instated to reimburse themselves for having a wedding they otherwise couldn`t afford. Or paying for their honeymoon. Word of mouth is the only acceptable way to get the word out as to where you are registered, or aren`t. Your guests are your GUESTS because you invited them to witness your vows and share in your day. If you expect any more from them you will be sorely disappointed. Times have changed. We`re paying for our own weddings, we`ve lived "in sin," we may even have a child with our fiance. But something that hasn`t...SHOULDN`T change is etiquette. Most of us say we want a "classy, sophisticated, traditional" wedding. Keep manners in mind when you plan. Your best friend may not think it`s rude to ask for money or put registry info in the invite. But mom, dad, grandma, grandpa and all their friends will gasp. They`ll accomodate you but not without reservation. Keep your head about yourselves, ladies. Remember what your wedding day is TRULY about.

I understand your situation because i too could use a gift of money rather than a blender. BUT, i agree it`s tacky to say that in an invite. The wishing well idea is about as far as you should even consider going. If you go there at all. Good luck.

K

It`s probably not best to put anything mentioning money or gifts in your invitations.. I have actually heard from people who have had that mentioned in their invites.. So they intentionally went & bought gifts or gift certificates because they felt offended.. BUT take into consideration everyone feels differently about everything! My best advice would be just to not register anywhere.. If you do, just a place or two.. Once people realize you aren`t registered they will resort to money.. Thinking you need it most! Word of mouth is the best way to inform people of what you want.. And it wont be coming from you most of the time.. People will probably ask around such as to your parents or his parents or friends... Don`t sweat it.. You will get plenty of money I am sure.. Just enjoy!!!!