No-Nos... What Are They All, Anyone Know
Is there any way to find out what the "rules" are before you get married? The what you are and aren`t suppose to do. Like the seeing the Bride in her gown, sleeping seperately the night before, what is the say about something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue... What is it about??
Posted by Josy; updated 09/27/03
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Josy,
Most of the `rules` have gone out the window in regards to weddings and traditions. Although a few `rules` are still adhered to (as they are more etiquette issues than tradition) and those have to do with 1. Asking for money 2. Registry information in with the invitations.
The two items I mentioned above get quite the heated debates going. However, most people agree that #1 it is not appropriate to ask guests for money in lieu of a gift and #2 it is not appropriate for the bride/groom to include registry information in with the invitation.
As for seeing the bride before the ceremony -- a lot of couples are opting to do pictures before the ceremony so that they can go directly to the reception. This is especially important if you are having a late ceremony and do not want guests to have to wait very long to eat the meal. So, that `rule` is way out the window. Although some couples still feel it`s important to not see eachother -- that`s totally up to them.
Sleeping in the same bed as the bride/groom the night before the wedding is also a long-time tradtion. Again, it`s out the window. No one will know if you two sleep, or not sleep together the night before the wedding. Many couples live together before they get married so it`s an accepted concept.
The new, borrowed, blue tradition is still pretty much followed. Although it is a bride`s choice. The tradition has to do with luck with the marriage. No one is going to question you as to what is new, borrowed, and blue.
Weddings today are unique and tend to have new ideas incorporated into them. Decades ago no one would have even thought of having a chocolate cake for the wedding cake -- today some people do cheesecake instead of traditional wedding cake.
Weddings are unique to the bride and groom and their ideas of how they want their day to go. Some like the older type traditions and some like to go out on their own.
It`s all up to the bride and groom and how they want to celebrate their new life together! Sometimes it`s fun to start new traditions!
Best wishes to you!
Posted by Kay; updated 09/27/03
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Another "tradition" is putting a penny in your shoe. Sometimes the pennies are put in special boxes to be shared with daughters and granddaughters on their wedding day years from now. I am not exactly sure what it is supposed to symbolze though or if it`s just for luck.
Same with a beautiful hankie. It is passed down for many generations too. Just a thought.
Posted by Sissy; updated 09/28/03
