? About Matron Of Honor........
How often should I speak to your Matron of Honor? I just recently selected a new Matron of Honor (see post "Help a bride with a problem"), how often should we speak? Is it necessary to speak everyday, once a week or whenever needed. I`d like to keep in contact with her if nothing more then to say hello. The day I asked her she went looking for a dress, which is a step up from my last Matron of Honor. I asked her on Saturday, Sept 20th should I speak to her again before the weekend or wait until the weekend? Help I`m new at this. FYI - She is a member of my fiancee`s family so she and I don`t usally hang out so I don`t normally speak to her often.
Posted by Bride Needs Help; updated 09/23/03
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I just replied to your last messages then found you here. I`m glad you chose a new MOH. As I mentioned in the other reply I have been a wedding photographer for 7 years and can attest to how that situation could leave you with memories of stress and frustration of your wedding day. As to speaking with your new MOH, It would depend on how much of the planning your leaving up to her. You want your wedding day to flow smoothly like a fairy tale, right? A plan and communication is your best bet. Make sure she knows what you expect of her and don`t leave anything out. If that means you calling everyday because you thought of something else then do it. I`m not saying to be demanding or rude but clearly communicate your vision of how you want your wedding day to unfold.
Posted by Kelly; updated 09/24/03
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Kelly,
Thank you so much for both your post.
Posted by Bride Needs Help; updated 09/24/03
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It depends on what you need. I would take her to lunch and discuss what her duties will be. The amount of times you call her is really a question that no one can answer but you. Call her enough to keep in touch and keep each other up to date of the wedding plans and call her every now and then to just say "HI!" or just to gab, making it known that she is appreciated without being wedding related.
I don`t know that I would call her once a day. If a bride called me every day about her wedding I would be annoyed. Nobody wants to hear or discuss someone else`s wedding every day or even every other day. And frankly, it really isn`t necessary to communicate that often until you get down to the wire. Unless of course you BOTH WANT to talk about your wedding plans all the time, then by all means.......
Posted by Linda; updated 09/25/03
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No difference in the position or the duties. The difference is if you pick a friend for the job and she is single she`s called a maid of honor. If you pick a friend for this job and she happens to be married or divorced she is called matron of honor.
Posted by Linda; updated 10/08/03
