Help With My Fiance :( :( :(

Hey there. It sounds to me like she is confused. I went through the same thing when my fiancee and i first got engaged. I love him and he loves me, but i never anticipated how stressful and overwhelming planning a wedding can be. Just talk to her and let her know your feelings. Let her know that you are a team and in it (the wedding and marraige) together. Reassure her and offer to help with planning. If finances are a problem, just talk it out the two of you alone first. Most of all, give her some time. Let her realize that you are the man she wants to spend her life with and that she is the woman for you. Let her realize that the wedding is just one day (although all the prep makes it seem like forever). Together, learn and plan and just let things happen. Fighting is a sign of stress, as it is a stress reliever. Just dont` forget or let her forget what the focus is (your love). Remember to take some time alone just the two of you. Ban any wedding discussion and just be together to remember why you are getting married. Good luck to you both.

Awe..I feel bad for you.....wedding stuff just gets a little stressful at times..I know my fiance and I have had more "issues" with planning this wedding then we have our 3 years dating..it`s very stressful for a girl..I have a low budget so I know that can be tough...just let her be for a couple weeks...she wants to get married she`s just overwhelmed right now....don`t take this situation to heart..Encourage her to look at wedding budget books..that`s what I`ve been doing and they really do help..Good luck..hang in there...if you or your fiance needs any help feel free to email me..oneangelofmusic@hotmail.com

Tim,

I am so sorry that this is happening to you. I can`t begin to fathom the emotions going through your head, and heart, right now. You`re in a tough situation right now and I sincerely hope that everything turns out as it should be.

Becoming engaged is a very exciting and scary time for anyone (bride or groom). This coupled with the fact that she (your fiance) recently graduated from college and is starting "her real life" just adds to the stress.

I don`t think your fiance is leaving you. Sounds like she needs some time to herself to sort out all the feelings and emotions that she is feeling right now. It`s so overwhelming that even the most put-together-I`m-ready-to-get-married person has a difficult time adjusting.

Deciding to marry someone is the most important decision one will ever make. It`s very common for women, and men, to question if they are making the right decision. It`s a big step and no one wants to make the wrong one.

Also, fighting and bickering is very normal after a couple gets engaged. I know of very few couples that don`t fight during the engagement period -- especially right before the wedding. There is so much going on and so many pressures that many people just can`t deal with them. You have pressures from families, friends, eachother, vendors, the pastor...you name it and someone is demanding your time and focus. It`s tough!

I hope this weekend of talking helps both of you sort through your feelings. All I can say is hang in there and take eachday as it comes to you. I`m confident that your fiance is just having what I call "wedding day breakdown" where you are so overwhelmed with everything that you just can`t handle anymore.

Hang in there and let us know how things work out!

Hey man. I know how u feel. I am 17 and my fiance is 17 too. Last week she told me that she wanted to break up and see what it feels like to be "free". Then she added on the little detail that she might like another guy that she works with. We have been together for 3 and a half years. She wants to smoke weed but i don`t want her to because before we got together that is what she did and i got her to stop. She wanted to get high with her brother in law and wanted me to also but i didnt want to so she said that she would do it wether i did it or not. I asked her if she would please not do it but she didnt care. She was going to pick it over me so i did it with her. Now i think that was the most idiotic thing that i have ever done. Now we are back together but she acts wierd. Before eveything happened, when we would kiss, we would kis for like five minutes. I`m not talking about making out but a kiss to show that you are deeply in love with that person and now when i try to kiss her like that she pulles away in 3 seconds. It just doesn`t feel the same anymore. I don`t get it.E-mail me back with your opinion on what i should do please.
I_caught_fire_88@yahoo.com
Later.