Amount Of Monitary Gift

I was told that you should give a monetary gift for at least the amount of the plate per person, but how are you supposed to know that? For someone you don`t know and have never met...........$100. My fiance and I went to a wedding for one of his co-workers 2 weeks after he started working for the company. We were only invited because he had an "extra" invitation. We gave them $100.

Right, you should be giving the amount to cover the cost of your plate - therefore, it should be around $100.00 PER PERSON - NOT per couple.

I don`t agree with the PER PERSON theory. What if it is not in your budget and what if the dinner only cost $30 per person. Give what you can afford.........

I would pick them out an inexpensive item off their registry of maybr an inexpensive piece of crystal or some candles you`ve found on sale.
Hope this helps
Tami

The amount of money you give as a gift has absolutely nothing to do with the cost of your dinner.

Give what you can afford and what seems appropriate for your area. I would say $50-$100 would be very generous considering the information you`ve provided. I would not give any less than $50 though.

You are all crazy. If you cant cover your plate, and dont have an idea of what it is....dont go!

Michele,
You really don`t have to resort to name calling. Let`s begin by reminding everyone, a gift is not required (monetary or otherwise). But of course everyone will bring a gift. It should be what they comfortably can afford, be it a check or something off their registry.
My grandparents, and their friends always went with the cover your plate idea. That`s back in the day when plates were $15-20 and held in the local VFW. Now with your average plate going from $60-$125, my grandparents could never afford to give you $200.00 out of their pension check. But they certainly would find a way to give you a nice and memorable gift. So Michele are you saying they should not be invited? I believe the Bride and Groom should not expect their guests to finance their Wedding. Otherwise, when you do your guest list is it according to those closest to you that you want to share your day with, or according to their income?

Give what you can afford. When you don`t even know the people very well I believe that $50 is appropriate. However if you can`t afford that then give $20 or $25. Guests are not invited to a wedding to pay for it and if that is the type of wedding someone is planning I would be happy to be left of their list.

Give money...if you can`t then give them something off their registry.
BUT PLEASE DON`T GET THEM CRYSTAL YOU GOT ON SALE!!! (a previous posting)
I`d rather have 30 bucks than some piece of crap!!

Recent Bride,

I very happy that you`ve proved my point. Yes, your grandparents paid 15-20 a plate. Let me explain something called inflation: In 1970, a gallon of gas cost $.40, today is about $2.00. Thus, if you use a bit of math you can inflation adjust what your grandparents gave a see it was between $75-$100 in today dollars. So, if you factor in inflation, in reality weddings today are actually less then they were in the 1970s. However, I do understand that you probally don`t understand this.

Michele,
My point was that when my Grandparents could afford to cover their plates they were more than happy to. At this point in their lives, living on a fixed income they cannot. I`m sure that they are not the only ones, that this is an issue for. I again say A GIFT IS NOT REQUIRED, what your guests give you, should be appreciated for the thought. I again also point out that your guests are just that....invited guest that should not be required to finance your wedding. Have the Wedding you can afford and everything else is a BONUS!

Michele,
I think the main point you should understand is it is not the responsibility of your guests to PAY for your wedding. A gift is just that a GIFT!!!!

I agree, $50 per person...$100 per couple is an appropriate gift for a couple you don`t even know.