Help. We Have Mixed Religions
My fiance and I have been fighting with the whole religion thing. His dad is a pastor for a mennonite church and his entire family is very religious. I come from a catholic background and am not accepted with his family as much as I would like to be because of this and because I have a two year old daughter from a previous engagment. My fiance does not care about what type of wedding we have just as long as his dad gets to marry us. Tradition in our family has always been to have a dinner and dance in which we have the father daughter dance. Dancing is forbidden in his religion and his dad says that if we have any dance or alcohol associated with our wedding than he will not marry us. We have thought about having a seperate gathering with his family after the ceremony and then doing a dinner and dance with my family that we would keep secret from the rest of his family. Any ideas what I should do. This is causing fights between my fiance and I and is making this wedding thing extremely unenjoyable. Please help. I beg you. We never thought it would cause this much conflict and we love eachother to much to call the wedding off. I just don`t want to look back and regret anything or resent his family because I couldn`t have the wedding that I want. Am I being selfish?
Posted by Krista; updated 09/19/03
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I`m so sorry Krista.
I`m a catholic like you, when I married my husband 20 yrs ago, I couldn`t do it in church, because the priest told us that if he did not convert he will not married us, my husband is methodist, we never had a problem over the religion part, but I was born in Spain, and my mother -in-law did not approved of me at all, I was the "alien", it took 16 yrs for her to acept me. I think and this is my opinion, that if you 2 love each other, it should be what ever you think and really feel in your heart, because marriage is a hard job, and more if you are in a mixed marriage. I wish you all the luck in the world. I know this may not help you much, but you are not the only one au there with the same problem, in the end is up to you 2 and your love for each other.
Posted by Reme; updated 09/19/03
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Thank you for your message Reme. If you have any advise for us to live happily even with this difference please e-mail me. Mystique_lelond@hotmail.com It`s nice to know that I am not the only one but at the same time hard to face the fact that in the religeous world of forgiveness it just doesn`t exist anymore.
Posted by Krista; updated 09/19/03
