How To Tell Her She`s Not A Bridesmaid
I have a dilemma...How do I tell a good friend that she is not one of my bridesmaids? I`ve known her since junior high and we`re still close, but I honestly think that she will not enjoy the duties of being a bridesmaid. She also is very busy. I know I should let her decide whether or not she can handle the job, but quite honestly I know it`s not her cup of tea. I`d like her to be a bridesmaid, but already have enough. How do I tell her she`s not a bridesmaid?
Posted by jen; updated 09/12/03
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Is there some other role that this person could play? Perhaps she could be a personal attendant?
Let her know how important she is to you and that you want her to have a special place on your special day. Ask her what she thinks she`ll have time for and what she`d like to do.
Good luck!
Posted by Kay; updated 09/12/03
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If she`s a close friend then I would ask her to be a bridesmaid and let her decide whether she wants to accept the responsibilities. Tell her you would be honored to have her in your wedding party but also tell her that you know how busy she is and your feelings will not be hurt if she declines. That way you are asking her to be in your wedding but also giving her an out.
If you totally don`t want to even ask her, then don`t. But if you are not going to ask her then there is no reason why you should have to tell her she`s not your bridesmaid. By not asking her, she will already know.
Posted by Tammy&Mark; updated 09/12/03
