Wedding Procession
My sister is getting married soon and my fiancee and I were both asked to be in the wedding. I will be one of 2 best men and she is a bridesmaid. In the wedding there are 2 best men, 4 groomsmen, a maid and matron of honor and 4 bridesmaids. So that everything will be `balanced` in the procession the best men would be paired up with maid/matron of honor and each groomsman with a bridesmaid. My fiancee feels that since we are a couple we should be paired up in the procession, but my sister and my parents feel that if they did that the procession wouldn`t be `balanced`. What would be the most appropriate arrangement for this processional?
Posted by Bill; updated 09/12/03
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I do agree with your fiancee, it would be nice to be paired up, but since you are not Married yet - it`s not necessary that you are. Since it is her day, unfortunately you have to do what she wants and just go with it.
Posted by Robyn; updated 09/12/03
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That is just unbelievable! Of course you should be paired with your fiance! They think to pair you up with your fiance is "unbalanced"? Wow, that is strange thinking. If your fiance was not in the wedding party then I could see every reason for you to be paired with someone else. But she IS in the wedding, so I don`t see why they don`t want you to walk together.
Posted by Tammy&Mark; updated 09/12/03
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Perhaps when they say "balanced" they mean heights matching up. Some brides and grooms like to match up tall bridesmaids with the tall groomsman and vise versa. To some the lines the two groups makes a difference and things to be even.
Personally I feel that even though you are engaged it doesn not mean that you should be paired up together. It`s a rather insignifant thing as to who you are paired up with. I`d just do what the bride wants me to do and not ask questions. You will have plenty of time to be with your fiance after the ceremony at the reception.
Just go with the flow.
Posted by Kay; updated 09/12/03
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Engaged and married couples are supposed to be paired together in the wedding. I think this bride is a bridezilla.
Posted by Tammy&Mark; updated 09/12/03
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Bill,
The most appropriate way to pair people up is based on how the bride/groom wants it to be. It`s their day and it should go the way they want. When you get married, you get to decide who is paired up with whom.
It`s so insignificant in the whole scheme of things. Just let them decide who they want you to be with. All you have to do is walk down the aisle with them and that`s pretty much it other than a few other short moments like the grand march.
Posted by Kay; updated 09/12/03
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Bill,
The bottom line is...this is the brides wedding, and what she wants on her day , goes. We had the same situation. Two bestmen and 4 other guys. One of the bestmens wife`s insisted on walking with her husband. The bride had a maid of honor(girlfriend and matron of honor(sister), and another sister was a bridesmaid. She of course wanted her sister to be next in line after the maid and matron of honor . This couple made this happy time into a nightmare for the new bride. The couple threatened to back out of the wedding if they couldn`t be together. The bride wanted her sisters to be in places of honor, so she stuck to her guns. Shame on those who would ruin a beautiful time for any bride and groom. It is not your wedding.
Posted by Lindy; updated 09/12/03
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I mostly agree with you Lindy, except the part that says that this is the bride`s wedding. Personally I have a groom in mine too, and he`s as much a part of this as I am.
K
Posted by Kimberly; updated 09/13/03
