I Need A Nice Way To Ask For Money Gifts.

I had a cousin who only wanted money for her "gift." She even went to the length of putting a "money tree cutout" for those RSVPing in the invitation she sent out. Well.....very few showed up for her wedding and even fewer gave money.

It`s rude. If people ask, tell them, but some will give money, some gifts, just be happy and thankful for whatever you recieve

I have a nice poem from another wedding I attended if you are interested. Otherwise most of the wedding sites have poems listed there too. Just do a search and you`ll come up with heaps. You can adapt them to suit your needs. They are very popular now-days.

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If you scroll down to 9/8/03 you will see that this exact same message is already posted by you and you have 48 answers to the question. Did you not like the first round of answers?

If you really want to use the money for a honeymoon, go to a travel agency and register for a honeymoon. They give you the same pieces of paper, that you get from any other registry to include, and it tells the guest that you are registered for honeymoon and where to send their gift(contribution.)

Kristi is right -- that is the only polite way to get your guests to support your honeymoon.

There is not a nice way to ask for money. It`s common knowledge that this sort of thing is rude and tacky.

"common knowledge that its rude and tacky" ??? Give me a break, this is ONLY your opinion. You do not speak for anyone but yourself. Lighten up. Nobody appreciates you namecalling.

Why is it that every other question is answered with a big "its your wedding, do what makes YOU happy"?

NO, Vanessa, it IS rude and tacky to ask for money. I don`t care if you have every model of blender known to man. You should never think it`s alright to ask for money in place of other gifts. You should NOT ask for gifts at all. The gift (or denomination of $$) is up to the giver. They already have a choice...to follow a registry or come up with something creative or write a check. You are asking your guests to participate in your day, NOT to feed your bank account or furnish your home. If you have any ounce of class you would know this to be true.

Vanessa,

First off, I am not namecalling -- I was using adjectives to describe inappropriate behavior. Asking for money is rude and tacky -- I didn`t indicate that these people are "jerks" or "losers". There`s a huge difference. Perhaps you shouldn`t jump to conclusions so quickly.

As for my typical "it`s your day - do it how you want it" suggestion, I truly mean that when it comes down to people`s choices on specific items such as: their colors, what their bridesmaids wear, the kind of cake they are purchasing, who should sit with whom, etc.

If people are asking what they should do regarding asking for money (thus an etiquette question) - you`ll find that 99% of people tell them it`s rude and tacky -- because it is. These brides are asking for a reason -- they want to know how proper etiquette is related to a specific subject that is sensitive.

There is no correlation whatsoever between "should I ask my guests for money" and "should all my bridesmaids wear the same shoes." These are two completely different things.

Tell your guests you are registered at WELLS FARGO

KC needs to learn how to spell in Spanish before posting all-Spanish replies.

Listen, I am on my second marriage. The first was 12 years and we ended up with a garage full of wedding gifts because we had just moved and had a houswarming. I am 33 and I am going to include on my reception cards at the bottom"monetary gifts will be accepted" because if your family and friends live on planet Earth they know that we in the United States are in a depression-recession. Think of how much it is going to cost me to feed 200 people at 40bucks a plate plus all the other expenses.....no, I will not in any way frown upon Any gift but I am going to add that to the reception card. All you people..we all know many people come to the wedding to freeload off the happy couple..if you don`t believe me try putting "pay your own way" OR "no open bar" and see how fast your list reduces. Sorry I`m just keeping it Real.