Seating Arrangements - Necessary?
Greetings everyone:
I`m just starting to figure out the whole seating arrangement thing, who sits where, with whom, etc.
As I muck through this, I`m starting to wonder if it`s really necessary. Do people really need to be told where to sit, or can guests be trusted to find their way to a table?
Also, I`m struggling a bit with spouses of the bridesmaids. One of them especially, he won`t know a soul in the place except for me, my fiance and his wife. Hardly seems fair to stick him out in the general population. Do people put spouses at the head table with the bridal party?
Thanks,
K
Posted by Kimberly; updated 09/07/03
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Personally I don`t care for seating arrangements, especially if you are doing a buffet dinner. I`d rather see my guests chose where they`d like to seat vs. Mandating where they should. Plus, some people may be offended if they are placed in the back table. Also, there may be some people who say they aren`t coming and then they show up, thus they don`t have a place to sit. I`d go with a `general admission` type of reception as it saves the bride and groom a lot of headaches (you`ll have enough to begin with).
I`m getting married in December and am having a reserved table for the significant others of my bridal party. That way, they have a special place to sit even if they don`t know anyone else at the reception. Also, I plan to introduce the sig others to eachother the night before at my rehearsal dinner so that they are familiar with who they will be sitting with.
Good luck and best wishes with planning your wedding.
Posted by Kay; updated 09/07/03
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We are having a small wedding party....only MOH, BM
And 1 usher and 1 Bridesmaid. Our coordinator suggested we could have a SWEETHEART TABLE with just the 2 of us, that way the other four can sit with their significant others and their families who are invited.I think we will do that, it sounds fun and intimate!
Posted by Bethy; updated 09/07/03
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I like the sweetheart table idea...except that the groomsmen don`t have significant others, while the bridemaids do. *sigh*
I`m tempted to not bother with the seating arrangement. But then, I don`t want people that don`t know many people to end up sitting in a corner by themselves. Not to mention what my mom will have to say about it...
I`m still torn....oh well, only 12 more days to figure it out, then it won`t matter anymore!
Thanks for your comments!
K
Posted by Kimberly; updated 09/08/03
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I would invite the spouses to the rehearsal dinner and introduce him to someone who will not be at the head table so that he knows someone. As for seating arrangements, i would at least reserve tables for the parents and grandparents, you don`t want them relegated tot he back of the room because your coworkers got there first. I do agree with seating arrangements, just make sure to sit people with others they know (if you do one). Don`t stick your uncle jim with your fiancee`s cousin marg because they are both single, it will be awkward. We decided to sit the families with their own, if they want to mingle, they will do it one the dance floor. Good luck to you
Posted by Sarah; updated 09/08/03
