Renewal Of Vows

This is my second marriage, and my husband, and I eloped 16 years ago. There were only the two witnesses at our union, no ceremony, no celebration, no family etc..... Now 3 daughters, and 16 years later the regrets are more then ever. Our marriage has survived some very rough, painful, and uncertain times, but we have prevailed more committed, and stronger, and would very much like to renew/reaffirm our vows. So, here are my questions: 1) Can I wear a white semi informal wedding gown, no train, no veil? 2) I did have the big, lavish first wedding, does that matter? 3) What about flowers boquet? Photographer? Wedding cake?

I am reading so many conflicting opinions, and receiving some negative feedback (my parents and his,) but it is really something we want to do, for us, and very much for our daughters who have recently have had alot of questions about the way we got married, why we have no pictures, why I didn`t wear a dress etc. Just recently it came to light , that my 9 year old daughter thought that the few pictures she has seen of me in a wedding gown, was from my marriage to her father, she wants us to have a wedding.

Thank you in advance for any help, thoughts, advice or information any one can give me.