Can I Throw My Own Shower?

Sorry Tara, there is absolutely no way you can get away with throwing a shower for yourself. Do you have a friend or two who could give you a shower? An aunt or cousin perhaps? Normally immediate family members (like mom, sis, grandma) should not be throwing a shower because it`s looked at as sort of self serving. But exceptions are made and in this case maybe you have a sister who would like to throw you a shower?

I have no sister. Am I supposed to ask a friend to do it? Wouldn`t that be just like throwing for myself? I guess I will probably end up losing out on having a shower...I guess I should have rethought not having a maid of honor...lol. I didn`t have one because I felt like it is too much to ask of someone. I thought I could do everything all by myself...what an idiot I am...anyone reading this, never try to do everything yourself for your wedding, it is the hardest task I have ever taken on.

Well you`re not necessarily "supposed to" ask anyone to do it. You can if you want to. Perhaps you have a close friend with whom you can express your desire.

Maybe a friend is already throwing you a surprise shower!

If it`s not comfortable for you to ask or discuss it with a friend then I have another suggestion. Why not invite some of your friends for a special pre-wedding bridal luncheon? Dinner? Or Whatever... Usually it`s done for the wedding party, but no one says you can`t enjoy something like this with your friends. It will be a way to have a special time with your friends before the wedding. You might or might not receive gifts (most likely not - because it`s not a shower), but that shouldn`t matter because it will be all about the fun and the friendship. Unless of course you are wanting the shower only because of the gifts - then scratch my last idea LOL.

Well, maybe I will be lucky and someone will throw me a suprise shower!!! that would be so nice. How long before a wedding does a shower usually take place? I really know nothing about weddings, I have only attended 2 and they were both exactly the same even held at the same place, funny even though the two people didn`t even know each other. They were also both extremely boring, that is why I am having mine on Halloween! Hopefully that will add a bit of fun to the thing. Thank you so much for helping me.

Showers are usually anywhere from two months before the wedding till two weeks before the wedding (give or take...). It varies. Their isn`t really any precise time as a rule.

Is your wedding this October or next year? The Halloween wedding sounds like it will be a lot of fun!

The wedding is this halloween. Its is getting close, I am really scared now. I am just hoping everything comes together as planned. I also hope my guests wear costumes, that will make it so much more fun!

What about the grooms side....they could throw you a shower...and if they don`t think about it have your fiancee suggest it! Good Luck!

Male stripper and penis cake???? What is that about????

I am already married but you could do what I did for my baby shower....just send out invitations to your shower with a friend`s name giving it...I even paid for the room for the shower,my mother-in-law kinda took over the shower from there,and brought the cake and food,but basically I threw my own shower by mentioning it and paying for the room and sending out the invitations..I just had the given by space filled with my mol and best friends names...I told them this ahead of time,so they would be in on it if anyone asked.Hope this helps.

Oh surley there is someone that could give you a bridal shower, why doesnt your mum give one of your friends a call and explain that given she is so far away it is not possible for her to organise a shower, maybe she could send some money over to your friend to help with expenses. I know this will sound harsh but how good are your friends if not one of them have even thought of a bridal shower for you. I would be most hurt if i was you. Best of luck and i really hope you get your shower, every bride deserves one.

Is this the same Tara who is having her Halloween wedding at her father`s pub? If so, does Dad have a wife? One of his friends perhaps could throw you a shower at the pub, as long as you provide the guest list?

Yes, this is the same Tara. My dad is not remarried (thank god, she is horrible) but does have a girlfriend. My mom is coming early and said she might throw a shower for me, but now, after reading what exactly a shower is ( showering the bride with gifts) I feel really guilty for wanting one. I am not really good at accepting gifts, especially if I am the only one receiving them. So, I am now going to keep my mouth shut about it and hope I don`t get a shower, but if I do, I just hope it is just a party without gifts. Thank you all for your help. :)
Tara

Well it is mainly about bringing gifts, but it`s also fun! You play shower games and talk and laugh and eat lunch and have a cake! It`s all good stuff. Usually the gifts not as elaborate or expensive as the wedding gifts. I mean you will get things like smaller kitchen items, towels etc. Maybe you`ll lingerie or picture frames. Maybe a themed gift like a bottle of wine and some candles. The gifts are definitely usually practical inexpensive things or fun honeymoon things. It`s not like people will be spending $100 on your shower gift. (well maybe some will, but it`s not the usual). Shower gifts are more normally in the range of $20 -$30. I hope you have a shower! You will enjoy it and so will everyone else who attends. I promise!!