Nervous

Id like some help on this also.. Im getting married in May and every time I put a wedding favor together or start writing out my Envelopes to get Invitations ready my heart starts pounding!! LOL I dont even wan tot think about that BIG day and those jitters! someone help!

Holly

There`s no shure fire cure- just remember that you`ll be surrounded by people who love you and are marrying the one who loves you the most. That`s what`s important. Not any of the other stuff that causes us to loose our hair and chew our nails. You don`t have to do everything everyone suggests or have everything be perfect. Just hang in there and think about the big picture, do a little bit at a time and ask for help.

I`m glad someone else feels the same way Holly! Last time we were at the celebrant I almost had to walk out to get some air. I`m sure your excited about it too but it`d horrible worrying about the nerves.

Vanessa

Good advice Jewell, thanks. I`m excited about the wedding, but like I said its just the ceremony bit that scares me. I think the waiting and worrying is the worst bit. I have no idea how i`m going to be able to string two words together!

Vanessa

That`s what repeat after me is for.

If you are writing your own vows- take a writen copy and keep them simple.

I am 11 days away and not as nervous now as I was 2 months ago. Things are starting to fall into place, my dress is done, the decorations are organized, ect.

Actually what`s really helped is talking with my sweetheart about things that will happen after the wedding. Discussing the honeymoon, our home, this christmas, talking about goals and lifestyles, how we will raise our kids ect. The focus shifts from that awesome moment where everyone (who loves you) is listening in - to what a wonderful life is going to follow.

It`s just amazing.

So you put one foot in front of the other- look into his eyes, smile, and try to pay attention. If you can get away with it face the altar, or your fiance so you don`t have to look at the crowd. It will be over before you know it.

I also have panic attacks drink a glass of wine on your wedding day like an hour before i will do it to next year it calms me down...

Yes maybe the nerves are worst now because of all the stress and planning. I sure hope I start to feel calmer in the days leading up to the wedding!

Vanessa, it worries me quite a bit that in the past you have had panic attacks. You don`t want anything to ruin your special day so I recommend going to your doctor to get an anti-anxiety drug perscribed. Some people who do not know much about the benfits of medications will perhaps frown upon my advice. However, I am a Registered Nurse and know a bit about meds.

A small dosage of an anti-anxiety medication will not be harmful to you and will help you enjoy your whole day. You don`t want to be anxious all day and not remember your own wedding day.

Make an appointment with your doctor, explain the situation to him/her and see what they have to say. More and more people today take medications to help with anxiety, there is no longer negative connotations attached to these `drugs.` Also, the side-effects are minimal.

I just want you to enjoy your day as much as you possible can.. No matter how calm a bride thinks they will be -- they won`t be. It`s the most important day of their life thus far and everyone`s anxious.

Drugs aren`t always bad.

Good luck dear and I hope your wedding day is perfect.

Hi Kay,

I was on medication a few years ago and it pulled me through some terrible times. Now I don`t panic often. Mostly it happens in my sleep or just out of the blue, and only a few times a year now.

Anyway, to the point, the drugs that I was on took about 2 months to kick in. I actually considered going back on them just for this but I didn`t want to be on them for months before. I didn`t realize there might be something I could take just on the day. I`d be very interested if there was.

Thanks, i will speak to my doctor and see what she has.

Ness

Hi Vanessa,

I`m glad that you decided to go and talk with your doctor regarding the possibility of panicing on your day (honey, there isn`t a bride that doesn`t panic -- the ones that say they were calm...well, they lie). Hopefully she will be able to decide what is best for you as it`s obvious that she has been involved in your care over the years thus she is familiar with your medical background.

There are many many many medications out there to try and your doctor will help you through making the best decision for you.

Best of luck to you and I truly hope your wedding day is all that you dreamed it would be!

I am 2 days wayw from getting married and all i can say is i am NERVOUS!!!i have had panic attacks before so im afraid i will have one at the wedding.lets hope i dont.i think the main reason i am scared is being in front of a large grp of people...im not good with large amounts of people.I have the nervouse nausua and etc..i have found that pepto bismol works pretty good :-P..u wont throw up or have bowl problems..so all u have to worry about is locking your knees at the alter :-P...good luck all...

I had the same problem, I freaked out so bad at my rehearsal dinner I almost fainted. But when the wedding finally came I didnt have a problem, It was kind of like running on adrenaline. You are so caught up in moment that you kind of forget about everyone and everything else around you. Just a tip though, as strange as it sounds to most people, before you leave for the church let yourself scream really really loud, if your in an apartment you might want to use a pillow :) My doctor gave me that advice, works like a charm.

Best of luck!!!

I also have anxiety/panic attacks. I`m on medicine and I have it under control for right now (I`m also 10 months away from my wedding)...but once I start getting closer to the date, my mom wants me to have my dr. Increase the dose just to help. So I`ll probably do that. And i`ll also have a plan in case i do freak out, like to have the person who`s helped me through it the most in the past, readily available. But most of all, I just keep telling myself that all of this is just a big party, I`m planning, and nothing more. It`s suppose to be fun and not stressful. So I need to enjoy it and not panic. Oh, and I`m also preparing for things not to go so smooth...I mean I`m not hoping for the worst of things, but I just want to be realistic and openminded that something could go wrong, and if it does, I will still get through it, no matter what. Enjoy!

Here`s what my sisters did on their double-wedding day,and here`s what I plan to do.First of all,right up till the minute u walk down the aisle,keep urself busy. Help the bridesmaids with their dresses,make sure everyon`s in order,yadda yadda yadda. Then,as you`r walking down,don`t look at anyone else exept for your future husband.if you start to get nervous,think of how much he loves you and how much you love him,think of the first day you met,think of your first date.hopfully that`ll help