Guest List Question - HELP!
I am the maid of honor in an upcoming wedding. I told the bride that I would like to throw her a bridal shower. She gave me the guest list. The guest list has quite a few people on it that are not being invited to the wedding. The wedding is out of town and she said these people cant come to the wedding but expressed interest in coming to a shower. Isnt it in poor taste to invite people to shower but not to the wedding? If they already said they couldnt make it to the wedding - how could it hurt to send them an invitation to the wedding? isnt it the right thing to do?
Posted by Heather; updated 08/28/03
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I sent out invitations to many people who wouldn`t be able to make it. At least they know they are invited and can refer to their invite when they are trying to figure out how to spell his name. I would not invite anyone to a shower who was not invited to the wedding unless they asked to come, and even then I`d think twice about it.
Posted by Jewel; updated 08/28/03
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Yes, you are correct. It is not proper etiquette to invite anyone to a shower that is not invited to the wedding. She can either formally invite these guests to the wedding and shower, and if they can`t make it to the wedding, they can just send regrets. But if she is not inviting them to the wedding (regardless of whether or not they can attend), she should not invite them to a shower.
Posted by Jeannine; updated 08/28/03
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Oh my, we all have people whom will not be able to attend our weddings but in respect you must send out an invitation to them anyway. Please try and tell her in a nice way that it would be very rude to not send out an invite to them even though she knows they cannot attend the wedding. I know i would not even think twice about going to a bridal shower if i was not invited to the wedding. Best luck
Posted by kylie; updated 09/04/03
