No Bestman

My husband to be is in the same situation. Even though there were girls I really wanted in my wedding, we chose not to have anybody stand up with us. We get a lot of questions when we tell people that we have no bridesmaids or groomsmen, but we don`t care. I think it makes our wedding very personal.

Do you have any cousins or uncles that you are close enough to?

Does your fiancee have any brothers?

How about his father? The grooms father as best man is very common nowdays.

We originally weren`t going to have a wedding party, we were just going to ask friends & family to spend the day with us getting everything ready. But we decided that they should be recognized and have changed our minds and now have 10 people in the party.

That doesn`t really repeat your situation, but you don`t have to be blood brothers with someone to ask them to be in your wedding party. Maybe just ask those you are most comfortable with, and after it`s over you may be close friends. Family is always good too- it`s grounds enough to just be family, and you`ll be closer when it`s over. I love the father idea- what better way to show him how much he`s influenced you.

Good Luck

Thank you all for your thoughts and ideas. I really appreciate it. I talked at length with my fiancee about this subject and I`ve decided to have my nephew be my Bestman. He`s only 17 but after much thought I decided he`d be perfect. He`s had a tough life for such a young man and he`s always looked up to me. I`ve always had this stereotype in my head that my Bestman must be a close pal who I`ve been through thick and thin with, this just isn`t reality for me. I love the idea of keeping it in the family. Your thoughts have helped me come to my decision with confidence. Thanks again.