Totally Rational....

I think that choosing not to include children is totally rational considering that it should be a romantic night. Couples should be able to dance the night away and talk freely. Mothers that are invited to a wedding ( I assume they receive an invitation with enough time to plan ahead) should really think this through and treat themselves with a night out with their husbands. I don`t think it has to do anything with the children not being welcome...it just isn`t APPROPRIATE. I think thats the right word for it. You are spending lots of money on a venue, food, cake, photography, etc. And lets face it children will be children. It would be very sad to see a guest have to leave early because the kiddies are tired and are calling it quits. One of the kids is bound to run around and go nuts before the night is over. Others will need to nap. Then you have the ones that will form a little click and won`t listen to a single word their parents say. I have children too and I feel like as mothers we give them all our time and energy 24/7 so a little time for ourselves is definitely not selfish. It sounds like you are a great mother if you are hurt by the fact someone sends you a "no children" invite, however, the person on the other side is probably really looking forward to your presence there so letting your children stay with your trusted babysitter is the least you can do for the honor of being wanted at such a special event. Your kids will thank you for not putting them through the torture of keeping them seated with uncomfortable clothes eating "grown-upy" food and listening to boring "throw-upy" music. Hope my little comment helps....congrats to all the brides and wonderful mommies on here.