Kids In The Wedding

It is all right to put `Adults Only` on the invitation card, but some people could feel insulted. Children, especially the older ones, that could see the invitation might tend to feel resentment and a bit bitter towards you though. It might be even worse because of the other children you are having in your wedding. The children that aren`t allowed to come could feel as if you don`t trust them or don`t think that they are `special` or `worthy` enough to attend your wedding or be in it. And trust me, children never forget something like that. You should be especially careful about the children of your family and relatives because those children will feel the worst about not being invited.

WHAT?!?! That`s the biggest load of s*** I`ve ever heard!! Kids aren`t going to be offended. I was never offended, it was always that way...16 and over were invited. Some it was 15, some it was 13, some 18...whatever. I was happy to have a change of pace as a kid, and NOT have to be with my parents! It`s like having a substitute teacher! Those that are offended will be the parents acting like children. The ones that believe their children should take part in everything that they do.

It`s perfectly acceptable to have only the children participating in your wedding party at the reception. It`s quite customary, very traditional to do so. However, even then you may want to consider having somebody take the younger ones up to the room or to your house early as they`ll tucker out pretty quickly.

It would be inapproriate to invite Jack`s children, Joe`s Children, and cousin Lilly`s children ,but not the rest of the cousins` children. But having an age cutoff is quite acceptable, especially if looking to control your budget.

As far as children`s feelings mentioned before...if today`s children have gotten that weak minded, it`s due to poor parenting, not your non-invitation. And we should weap for allowing such oversensitivity to prevail in today`s society.

I wouldn`t put Adults Only on the reception unless the wedding party kids are not going to be there. Have them for the wedding and photos, maybe even a little mini reception of their own, snacks after photos ect. But drop them off before the reception.

If you have them at the reception don`t put the Adults Only, because it`s not. Just don`t include the children on the invitations.

I dont believe you read the post. She is having kids in the wedding. 4. So they will be at the wedding.

She does not want any other kids invited at all. So the question- how to word the invite and avoid hurt feelings.
Adults only means just that- no kids. The easiest way to word it, but if the wedding party kids will be there- innacurate, thus the hurt feelings.

Easier would be to not have the wedding party kids at the reception.

The other option don`t write adults only, just don`t invite any kids who aren`t in the party. Some people will ask or try to slip them on the Rsvp card- just be direct and say they aren`t invited.

Good Luck.