Am I Too Young To Be Getting Married

I`ve been there and done that - married 32 yrs. To DH. And most of them have been wonderful years. I married when I was 17 and DH was 20. If I had to do it all over again, I would have waited. If we were in love at 17 and 20 then we would still be in love at 25 and 28. Yes, I would have waited. At 49, I feel like I`ve been married my whole life. I would have enjoyed my single status a while longer - much longer. Marriage is a whole new ballgame compared to being engaged or dating. Hold off a few years - you won`t be sorry.

Um.. Maybe you made a mistake. I dont see how in 2010 youll be 20 if right now in 2009 your 16.


But to give you advise.. As long as you both are mature enough to know that marriage is a lifetime commitment full of love and compromise, i think youll be fine. Before you marry him, just make sure you two talk everything out (where youll live, who will be in charge for bills, when or if you want kids, if youll go back to work after you have kids, etc..) and make sure he has a job and a place for you two to live. He will be your husband, that means he will be your protecter, friend, lover, father of your kids, and your provider. You may think you know him but being married and living together will be completely different than your realtionship right now.


My aunt told me once..if you had a daughter would you want her to marry someone like him?

Marie,
Please do not get married when you are so young! I got married at 18 and got a divorce before I turned 21. At that age, people change a huge amount and sometimes those changes drive people apart. Take it from me, you want to enjoy being single and having fun and growing into a mature person before you decide to get married.

Don`t do it! You will almost be guaranteed to have a divorce. I got married young and it didn`t last. Neither did the marriages of anyone I knew who married young.

If you have children you will almost have to raise them alone after the divorce. And the situation where the single woman is left alone with children is , unfortunately, fatal to having another person to share your life with. Hardly anyone wants a readymade family.

My advice is to finish high school, go to college and THEN if you decide to get married the marriage will have a better chance of surviving.

And I was wondering how you can be 16 in 2009 and 20 in 2010 ?????

Just curious but why are you asking a bunch of strangers? Would your family approve or is that not the case and that is why you are asking the web world. I agree with whoever said if its meant to be they love yo9u at 17 they will love you at 28. If I hadnt been in the relationships I have been in, at older ages in my 20`s, than a teenager, I would not have appreciated my now fiance nor would have given him a chance. I have changed so much since I was 17, as I hope most people do, as you are still maturing and figuring out who you really are with different life experiences. Back years ago it was normal for you to be married by now and have a child however people didnt also live as long as we do now. Enjoy your life (and you may think he brings joy to your life-thats fine but there is no rush to get married-its a huge commitment), see what else teh world has to offer. If someone would have said I would be doing what I am doing now, be with the fiance I`m with and have had a career the past few years I would have laughed. There is still so many things to learn and experience about yourself before commiting to a marriage with someone.