Name Change After Divorce

I think anyone who is worried that your fiance`s / husbands ex still carries his last name are just insecure. I have been divorced from my ex for 14 years (and remained that way until my recent marriage). My keeping his last name had absolutely nothing to do with wanting to hang on to him. As a matter of fact, he moved and we hardly ever spoke nor did he see our 2 girls until just 4 years ago (his choice not mine). I kept his name because my girls to no fault of theirs lost their dad. There was no reason they should have to explain why their mom had a different last name than them or have any kind of a label put on them...nor did I. And for the person who commented that it`s not like people aren`t going to know they are her kids...you are wrong (schools, churches, etc. Think you may be an aunt, step parent, etc.). I have been known by my ex`s last name for 20 years (professionally and personally) and am now recently remarried and kept my ex`s name.