Out Of Town Guests
My cousin is getting married next month. He got engaged 6 months ago. When they got engaged, my sister-in-law asked if the kids were going to be invited and they told her of course all the kids were going to be invited. I live out of town (8 hour drive) and was planning to attend and stay with my brother. The invitations arrived last week. My sister-in-law`s children were not invited. They have now declined to go to the wedding. I feel like I cannot stay with them to attend the wedding, but cannot afford to stay at a hotel and there is no other family that I can stay with. I have a son with is 16 and he was invited. Because they invited 185 friends and 65 family members and they had to keep the cost down, they did not invite anyone younger than 13. Which means my sister-in-law`s kids on the only kids not invited. This upsets me because my nephews (12 and 8) will be hurt if we stay with them, but we do not get a chance to spend time with them.
What do I do?
Posted by Denise; updated 08/16/03
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If you`re close to your cousin, I would say something. It could be an oversite. What difference would a couple of extra people be, right? I would say something and remind them you were told they would be invited. Your cousin needs to know that not all of the people will come! Speak now or forever hold your piece, or peace!
Posted by Maggie; updated 08/16/03
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I wouldn`t go!
Posted by elisa; updated 08/16/03
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Tough one!
Although it`s an akward situation -- I`d still go to the wedding with your child -- I`d stay at your brothers house also. It`s not your fault your brother`s kids weren`t invited therefore, I wouldn`t alter your plans. If your sister-in-law has an issue, she should take it up with the bride. Try to stay neutral.
Tough one though....I sympathize with you.
Posted by Kay; updated 09/12/03
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I think that it would be way too awkward to be getting ready, come back and leave from a wedding that your sister-in-law`s children weren`t invited to. If a one night stay at a $50 hotel is going to make or break your trip then you probably shouldn`t be going anyway.
Posted by Laurie; updated 09/13/03
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I don`t understand. You say in your message that they`re keeping costs down by not inviting kids under 13. But then you say your sister-in-laws kids were the only ones who qualified not to be invited. How does not inviting two kids keep costs down? I think your sister-in-law has every right to be upset. I don`t think you should stay at her house. It would only make her feel worse.
Posted by MG; updated 09/13/03
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It`s been a month, I hope all went well,.
Hope nothing happened that will be"sorry for" in the time to come!
Posted by Maggie; updated 09/16/03
