Leave Him, Girl!!!

Girl, call it off! I just went through the same thing. My fiance would cheat and get caught, cheat and get caught ,all the way up to 6 months before the wedding.
I`d been on an emotional rollercoaster dealing with this fool for years. I`d walk down the street at times in a daze as to how horrible he could make me feel, crying like I was about to die. I didn`t get out of the madness until I focused my energy on myself. I thought "Is it okay that he cheats?", "Is it okay for him to continually hurt me?", "Is the love he`s offering the kind of love I want and deserve?" The answers were NO across the board!
Honey, leaving that fool was the hardest thing I`ve done in my life! But thank God I did! After the grieving( which took some time because we`d been together for six years) I focused on me. I started to meditate and do yoga. I went to therapy. I started to journal and hang out with my good friends. I took focused on my life and did things that made me happy. I truly found happiness within myself and lo and behold, literally six months later I meet the most incredible man I`ve known in my life. I was happy to just have good company and a man around that really enjoyed and appreciated being with me. But I was still working on myself. Four months later, he proposed. We are getting married next year and he is faithful to the core. He sees me as a treasure and THAT is the kind of love that I want and deserve!!!
A wedding is just a wedding but the MARRIAGE is what starts on that day. Remember that! If he doesn`t already value you or your relationship as something sacred, what makes you think that he`ll value his marriage vows? Your relationship and family is supposed to be sacred. If that is not understood by now, it never will be. Marriage vows are just words unless you honor and live by them. He is not good husband material.
If you are afraid of being alone and that you`ll never find another, don`t worry. You deserve the best and this dude is definately not it. Work on youself! Let him go, cry and move on with your life. Listen to your Mama! She does know best. A cheat will ALWAYS be a cheat!
Posted by Sidney; updated 08/08/03