Update On Someone Help Me
I appreciate all the replies they hepled im starting to look at him diferently now and most of me doesn`t cae at all what he thinks and i coudnt care less. I`ve been looking around for a new place but we are supposedly giving it another month in the apartment to see if the slit is for real. I no longer give him money and im not paying for an of his crap!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I`d rather be alone than be with someone and be lonely.
Posted by J; updated 08/07/03
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Way to go J! Hang in there and respect yourself- you deserve to be happy.
Posted by Jewel; updated 08/07/03
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Good for you! You stick to your guns girl and one day you will find a man who deserves you and treats you like a queen.Good luck!
Posted by Sarah; updated 08/07/03
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Good for you, J!!!! Good luck on finding a new place. You will be so happy and independant. It will be your time to really grow as a person and explore so many things. This guy is just a huge weight holding you back. Stick to your plan and don`t let him manipulate you anymore. Good luck!!!! We know you can do it!!
Posted by Tammy&Mark; updated 08/07/03
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J, I hope this is true. I`ve seen a lot of girls who are in horrible relationships suddenly put on a happy face when in reality all is not well. It might be for a few days or weeks but then it goes sour again. I advise you to start your independence now whether or not you`re going to give it another month. Tell your friends (even not so close ones) you are considering leaving your guy. Watch how fast they flock to your side to be there for you. Go out with them for a cocktail. You may even hear they`re points of view--they might finally confess that they never liked him anyway--and that will strengthen you even more. Start apartment hunting if for no other reason than you get to go through some cool places! Start looking at breeders or the humane society for a pet (I personally prefer dogs :) Go shopping and eat in a cafe by yourself and, I said this before, REVEL in your independence. Hold your head up high. I`m starting to sound like a motivational speaker! The best years of my life before I met my fiance were when I lived by myself in the cutest little apartment with my dog. I miss those days sometimes but of course I wouldn`t trade it now! I really wish you the best, J, I just want to reiterate to never settle for less than you deserve. If you guys are giving this another month just keep in mind that things may be great but how soon does he fall into his old habits? Is this what you want for life? What about your children? Will they grow up and someday realize how unhappy you were? Just keep asking yourself those questions. I`m done with my motivational speech (and no, I don`t live in a van down by the river!). Best of luck.
Posted by ann; updated 08/08/03
