Getting Married-Need Help

Hi! I have a couple questions if someone can help me out. My husband and I got married this past Jan before he left to the war (we got married at the court) now that he is back he has agreed to have a wedding to celebrate with family and friends. My questions is like when I do party favors, napkins, programs etc what date do I put on them. The actually wedding date or our celebration date. It`s like renewing our vows correct? I don`t know where to begin. We are on a budget and I don`t have a lot of time until Jan 10, 2004. I don`t want to make it a BIG wedding.