Vow Renewal

My husband and I are celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary. We were married the day before our son`s first birthday, we were 19 and things were done as cheaply as possible. We had a Notary marry us in the same place as our reception....
We have been through just about everything together and would like to renew our vows. I was married in a prom dress the first time around while my husband wore a button up shirt with a vest and tie.... This time we are planning on renewing in a church and holding the reception in the place we originally did... I want to somehow include my children - my son will be a jr. Groomsman while my daughter will be a flower girl -- any thoughts on something like a candle ceremony that has wording for a blood-related family as opposed to one with "steps"? Also, any thoughts on where to find info on the ceremony itself? Most places are saying what I am doing is inappropriate, however, we are having the wedding we wanted way back then.