No Gifts Please?????
I know it is tacky to mention what gifts you want in an invitation. But is it tacky to include that you don`t want any?
I`d like my guests to know that--how do I include it? Should I just type it up on a separate little piece of paper and put it in the envelope?
Posted by kim; updated 07/26/03
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Why are you telling her to request gifts of money when she specifically stated she doesn`t want any gifts???
By the way, any wedding planner should know that you never mention gifts at all in your invitation. And lord, don`t ever do anything as tacky and rude as telling people where to deposit funds for you. I can`t believe that!!!
Posted by Kylie R.; updated 07/27/03
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Most brides, when suggesting no gifts are referring to no material gifts but only money. If this is not what she meant, my apologies, but it is usually the case :)--wedding planner
Posted by jenice; updated 07/27/03
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Well if that`s what she meant, then as a wedding planner you shouldn`t be directing her to do gauche things like.
Posted by Linda; updated 07/27/03
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Everyone has their own opinion-- many modern day brides are all for it :) Our job as posting message is to give our ideas but not to be judgemental as to what the bride` sopinion is in her final decision. Good Luck!
Posted by jenice; updated 07/27/03
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Ouch! Ladies.... All this email and still have no idea how to tell my guests I want NO gifts...no, not even money. See, this is my second wedding....I`ve been down this road before...we have everything we need...we`re having a small private ceremony w/ family only...and then inviting a bunch of friends over to celebrate.
I think the idea is to include something within the invitation envelope (not on the invitation) that states "no gifts please".
Do we agree on this?! :o)
Posted by kim; updated 07/27/03
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Yes that would be a fine idea:)
Posted by jenice; updated 07/27/03
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Kim I agree that you can write "no gifts" with the invitation. It`s when you start dictating which gifts you want that is a problem. Being a modern bride doesn`t excuse you from good manners and graciousness. It`s never acceptable to behave as Jenice suggests.
Posted by OctoberBride; updated 07/28/03
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Kim,
How about....... The pleasure of your company on this wonderful day is all we need, please no gifts.
Love Bride and Groom
Posted by jemmy; updated 07/29/03
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Jemmy,
That`s a fine idea....thanks to everyone for their help....I think I can come up with something that I can be happy with and not totally compromise the "rules of invitation etiquette"!
Posted by kim; updated 07/30/03
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My Mother-in-Law is getting remarried in September. She added this comment to her invitations..." Your presence will be our gift."
Good Luck.
Posted by Pat; updated 07/31/03
