Invitation Etiquette
This is my second wedding and low key. The ceremony will be private with immediate family, maybe a dozen people....however a few hours later we are having a reception/bbq on our property.
I intend to send announcements to out of state relatives. I want to send invitations to those family members coming to the ceremony and party, and send invitations to those coming to just the reception.
Does anyone have any ideas how I write an invitation that says we got married, so come out and help us celebrate. I want it to be nice, not tacky.....also, is it wrong if I include something in the envelope that says "no gifts please".
Are there any web sites that help in proper verbage on invitations. (the first wedding was so much easier!)
Any help would be appreciated.
Kim
I intend to send announcements to out of state relatives. I want to send invitations to those family members coming to the ceremony and party, and send invitations to those coming to just the reception.
Does anyone have any ideas how I write an invitation that says we got married, so come out and help us celebrate. I want it to be nice, not tacky.....also, is it wrong if I include something in the envelope that says "no gifts please".
Are there any web sites that help in proper verbage on invitations. (the first wedding was so much easier!)
Any help would be appreciated.
Kim
Posted by kim; updated 07/24/03
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Basically you use the same wording as you would for the wedding invitation, only you say "wedding recpetion" instead of wedding. Here`s an example:
Mr. And Mrs. Don Smith
Request the pleasure of your company
At the wedding reception
For their daughter
Stephanie Lynn
And
Mr. Kevin Jones
Saturday the fifteenth of June
Two thousand and three
At seven o`clock
Harbor Yacht Club
Somecity, somestate
Mr. And Mrs. Don Smith
Request the pleasure of your company
At the wedding reception
For their daughter
Stephanie Lynn
And
Mr. Kevin Jones
Saturday the fifteenth of June
Two thousand and three
At seven o`clock
Harbor Yacht Club
Somecity, somestate
Posted by Linda; updated 07/25/03
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I just looked up in my Emily Post wedding etiquette book for this one and the correct traditional wording is the one that Linda stated. I didn`t see anything about the other one. By the way you should not say "Mr. And Mrs. ____ were married on.... ". Some people will not know who you are!!!!!! If you want to be all informal with it, say Ann Marie Jones and Mark Alan Smith were married on...." But really the whole thing is not correct for a standard reception invitation.
Posted by Kylie R.; updated 07/27/03
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The way I worded it is the way many modern brides are wording it if they have had a destination wedding without family and would like to announce that this has happened and then to request their presence at the post reception. Just depends on your personal style and taste.
Posted by jenice; updated 07/27/03
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Well judging from some of the tacky advice I`ve seen you give on other questions I`m going to seek out some wedding etiquette books to see for myself. I don`t agree that it has to be formal, some invitations are more casual these days. But I have to admit that saying Mr. And Mrs. Jones were married on such and such date is a little bit silly when many friends, relatives and such of the bride might not have a clue who it`s from!
Posted by Poster; updated 07/27/03
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Example:
Jessica Anne Potts and Robert Louis Stevens
Request your presence as they continue
The celebration of their union
At their home
123 houston drive
Somewhere
February 14, 2004
5:00pm
You would have to spread by word of mouth that you don`t want any gifts, it`s not proper to do that on an invitation (you should never mention anything about gifts on an invite).
Good luck
Jessica Anne Potts and Robert Louis Stevens
Request your presence as they continue
The celebration of their union
At their home
123 houston drive
Somewhere
February 14, 2004
5:00pm
You would have to spread by word of mouth that you don`t want any gifts, it`s not proper to do that on an invitation (you should never mention anything about gifts on an invite).
Good luck
Posted by Sarah; updated 08/01/03
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I would not say "as they continue the celebration of their union". That sort of implies that there was some sort of celebration already and the person getting the invitation wasn`t invited.
Instead I would say "as they celebrate their union".
Instead I would say "as they celebrate their union".
Posted by Kylie R.; updated 08/02/03
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OK,l am going through this right now! We are getting married on Oct. 7th in the Carribean, and we live across the country away from family and friends. We are having a post wedding reception a few weeks after back home. I sent out less formal invitations,but very unique. Wording was as follows:
We`re tying the knot!
Name and name will be married in a private ceremony in ______ on __________.
Come celebrate with us at a post wedding reception on _________, at __________.
I really struggled with this,but I think this was the most appropriate wording. If you make it really fun and creative you could add something like " no gifts please-your presence is enough!"
Hope this helps
We`re tying the knot!
Name and name will be married in a private ceremony in ______ on __________.
Come celebrate with us at a post wedding reception on _________, at __________.
I really struggled with this,but I think this was the most appropriate wording. If you make it really fun and creative you could add something like " no gifts please-your presence is enough!"
Hope this helps
Posted by Cassy; updated 09/07/03
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We are planning a surprise birthday dinner for our mother, and we want to know how to invite people but make it clear on the invitation that we want them to pay for their own meals.
Posted by Kate; updated 02/10/04
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Here is an option that I recently received from a couple - 2nd late-life wedding for both:
Bride and groom
Invite you to join us for dinner in
Celebration of our marriage
On date
Time
Address
"Your Presence is our Present!"
RSVP
Email address or phone
It was printed, probably on their computer, on very nice quality card stock.
Good luck
Bride and groom
Invite you to join us for dinner in
Celebration of our marriage
On date
Time
Address
"Your Presence is our Present!"
RSVP
Email address or phone
It was printed, probably on their computer, on very nice quality card stock.
Good luck
Posted by anita; updated 01/26/08
