Wedding Ediquette?

Of course it`s okay! How nice of them to offer!

Take it from me - when someone offers to pay for something for your wedding, don`t hesitate! Just TAKE it, with eternal gratitude, before they change their minds! :)

K

ARE YOU TO ENCLUDE THE MUSICIANS AND PHOTOGRAPHERS IN THE HEADCOUNT FOR DINNERS?

No, just tell the caterer how many vendors you want to feed and that you want a cheaper meal. Usually they`ll make them sandwiches or something less elaborate than what the wedding guests are eating.

Is it wrong to ask the Best Man`s wife to serve the catered meal to the bridal party?
Thanks,
Heather

I agree, if anyone offers to pay for anything take `um up on it. I believe at one time it was the grooms responsibility to pay for the rehersal dinner and I think the liquor. Today because of the tremendous costs involved the day of the brides family paying for everything else has been changing also. My husband and I lived together for 2 years before we got married so I did not expect my parents to pay for everything. They certainly helped us. They bought my dress, shoes,veil,tiara, slip, they payed for the videographer, photographer, florist , favors, programs for church and invitations. We payed for the reception, DJ, gifts for the wedding party, rehersal dinner and whatever else there was.But my In-Laws gave us a check about two months before the wedding and told us to put it toward what we needed most. So for us it worked out well, everyone shared in the cost! Good Luck!

IMO, its not bad to ask any friends or family to help with wedding stuff, like serving food. If they do not want to do it, they don`t have to, you know? Nothing wrong with asking.

My daughter is getting married in September, 2005. I have four widowed aunts who live over an hour away whom we see maybe once a year (at funerals) over the past few years. My mother and father are deceased (the aunts are either sisters or sisters-in-law of my mother and father). They are all in their 80`s. My daughter and her fiance would like to keep the wedding at a managable number (about 180 people). How would it look not to invite them? As you know, they are my daughter`s great aunts and we are not really close to them.

Is it wrong to ask the Best Man`s wife to serve the catered meal to the bridal party?
Thanks,
Heather

Yes Heather, it`s wrong. She is an invited guest not hired help. The best man`s wife should be seated with her husband and should be served her meal the same way her husband`s meal is being served.

Scenerio: After checking guest and gift lists to see if it matches up, you find some guests attended ceremony without a gift. You ask to them if gift got misplaced, etc. Their reply, " we have one year to give you a gift." If they told us up front, that the gift will late, we wouldn`t have asked.
Please comment. I understand thank you cards can take up to one year to receive from bride and groom.

Lotus,
I believe that would be a very rude thing to ask your guests, and I hope you did not have the audacity to do so. You invite people to your wedding because you want them to share the event with you. They are NOT required to bring you a gift! I understand that most people do and that it is a huge help to a couple who is just starting out, but it is no way a requirement. I can not believe you would even check to make sure everyone brought a gift, much less call and inquire about it! Why don`t you just charge them admission at the door!

Lotus, you have it all backwards. You never call your guests to ask where their gift is. They don`t have to give you a gift and it`s rude to act as if you are owed one. And you do not have up to a year to send out your thank you notes. Thank you notes should be sent out immediately upon receiving the gift. At the most, a couple months after the wedding is all the time you should take. If a guest does not receive a thank you note, they might call YOU to ask if you had recieved their gift, perhaps fearing that it was lost. You never call them and ask them why they didn`t give you a gift.

When am I going to get an answer to my quirie?

First you have to tell us what your query is!

June,
It is hard for us to give an anwser to your question as we are not aware of your family dynamics. You are not obligated to invite ANYONE to your daughters wedding.
As far as them being 80 years old and living an hour away shouldn`t matter to anyone but them. They may use those excuses to not come, but they shouldn`t have anything to do with your inviting them in the first place. I guess you need to ask yourself if you don`t invite them and the next time you meet somewhere else will you feel bad that you did not invite them? If they were hosting a party say an 80th birthday for one of them, would your feelings be hurt if the rest of the family was invited and you weren`t because your 50 and live an hour away? Just some thoughts, let us know what you decide.

You answered my question and i guess I knew the answer already! I will invite them and let them decide whether or not they willl come. Thanks for your reply!

The brides parents need to buy the flowers except for the botiners.

Actually when I was married my mother and father had no money so I was man enough that I didn`t ask them for a penny. No regrets, because when it is all said and done I got a girl who did not care if I had money or not or if we could afford a expensive wedding and we have no debt now.

I have two cousins age 12 and one age 14 who really want to be in the wedding, but I already have six bridesmaides and six groomsmen and it is only a 150 guest wedding so junior bridesmaids will look to big. Can I make them assistants or hostesses and still let them walk down the aisle