Need Ideas:How To Include Our Baby Who Passed

First, I am so sorry for your lost. I know that must be a difficult thing.

I read somewhere about the idea of having a table at the reception with maybe a picture or poem and surround it with candles and rose petals.

Or you can maybe have a poem read at the wedding. I know if you search you can find some nice poems online.

You can also do a song and a moment of silence. Then dedicate a page in your wedding program to your child. Also, make a mention in your vows.

I don`t know if that was much help but if I think of anything else, I will let you know.

Instead of lighting a unity candle, we asked the judge to announce that we would be lighting a candle in memory of my father and his mother. It was very special to both of our families.

I lost my infant son a few years ago and I know how impossible it is to stop mourning and to let yourself be happy. You might want to give yourselves more time to heal before your wedding day. But if that isn`t possible, please simplify things as much as you can. Ask for help, physical, emotional, and spiritual.

Pick something about your wedding that is sweet to you and color it pink to remind you that she is still part of you. Maybe a pink rose in the front row to save her place, or light a pink memorial candle. A sweet poem on the back of your program.

It`s not for everyone, but I had a small blue star tattooed on my shoulder after my son died (my only tatoo) . My only nod to his memory for my wedding day will be to wear a strapless gown so people can see it.

Do whatever makes you feel better, and remember that things will get better, and that you will have more children. My prayers are with you during this difficult time.