Okay Brides, Where Should We Wed?
Hiya! Here`s my dilemna: first of all, my fiance is from SF, CA and I am from a fairly small town in Alabama (we live in Dallas currently.) Most of his family lives in CA, and practically all of mine live in AL. Secondly, he has never been married before, and I have. He thinks because he`s the eldest son that his parents will just expect him to have a traditional wedding (his idea of traditional being: in a church, me in the huge Cinderella gown, tons of guests, etc.) while, I am hesitant about this 1. Because I have been married before, 2. Because our families are soooo spread out, and 3. Because i am not sure about how to invite people to come to ANOTHER wedding for me. We`ve been to Hawai`i several times, and I would love to get married on the beach at sunset. Anyway, any advice either way would be helpful. Main questions being about invites for either way... If we do get married in Hawaii, should we actually send invitations, I don`t mind if people come, but I highly doubt my friends family from AL will go, or do we just send announcements when we get back? And if we do decide to do the traditional thing, I would probably be more inclined to do that in CA since I have already been married, so again do I send invites?
Posted by Irene; updated 06/26/03
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Here`s a possible solution.
Have the wedding in SF with a small traditional ceremony and reception. Let him have the wedding of his dreams if he wants. Invite all your family and friends from AL. Knowing all of them won`t be able to make it, plan a trip in the near future to AL and have a reception afterwards. This way your family and friends get to meet your groom and wish you both well. Video the wedding in SF and show it at the reception in AL. If you feel uncomfortable about the 2nd wedding thing with your family and friends, put " No gifts please" on the reception invites. Then you don`t have the feeling " they think I want more gifts".
Both parties are happy and both families can be involved.
Just a suggestion.
Posted by Sissy; updated 06/26/03
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Thanks, Sissy! That`s kind of what I had in mind, let him have the wedding he`s always wanted, but still invite everyone, and then throw a reception for my friends/family back in AL. For, I would love to have a traditional wedding too, since I was only 20 the first time I got married it was a little non-traditional and definitely not the wedding of my dreams! (Not now anyway, LOL boy have my dreams changed in a mere 6 years???)
Posted by Irene; updated 06/27/03
