Getting Engaged.

I dont see anything wrong with getting engaged now.. I was living with my now fiancee when i was 17. Just wait a few years to get married, and use that time to plan the wedding. Good luck :)

I think it`s a good idea to wait to get engaged. There`s really no hurry. I`ve always felt an engagement really shouldn`t be `long.` It should be just the right amount of time you need to prepared for the wedding (either due to costs or planning purposes). You guys have a whole life ahead of you. Enjoy your dating period (how many years that may be), then enjoy your future engagement and later marriage. ** From stories I`ve heard, long engagments start there and end there.***

I don`t see anything wrong with a long engagement. My fiance proposed to me a little over 2 years ago, and this Saterday (6/7) is our wedding. Be prepared for bumps in the road, but I completely disagree with whoever said, "Long engagements start there and end there." Ours sure didn`t.

I`m sorry, but I think that`s way too young. My fiance and I have been together for 10 years - since I was 16, and from my experience, it`s best to wait. It`s amazing how much you change between the late teens to the early 20`s. Don`t rush it.

I`m going ot have to agree with those who recommended that you wait a while.

The practical reason: I think you should get engaged when a wedding is feasible, that is, when you can envision the wedding happening soon. Wait a couple of years until you`re more economically stable and have a better idea of where you want to go.

The emotional reason: i`m not suggesting this is your situation, but when i was 17 i was sure i would mary my first boyfriend. I`m now 23 and happily married... To my third serious boyfriend. I guess what i`m trying to say is, if she`s the one, she`ll still be with you when you`re 21, 25, 40! so i don`t think there`s a need to rush things.

Still, if you want to show her your love and commitment without getting engaged, why not give her a primise ring or a promise pendant or something like that... Although i didn`t go through the "promise ring" step, i know it is a popular idea with a lot of couples.

However, no one knows your situation better than you. I have relatives who went steady when they were 12 and 13, got engaged when they were 17 and 18, respectively, and got married when they were 23 & 24, and have been happily married now for over 30 years, so it can be done!

Well, good luck!

Hi, I got married at 16 the First time. Now I am married again. I waited until I was 27 the second time and this one is working. I cant tell you to wait, but what looks good at your age, usually looks a LOT different at my age. Dont get a ring yet, if it is true love you dont need a ring to keep you together.
Good Luck

For the person who said they were dating their now-fiance for 10 years before they got engaged, what is the point??
I`m sorry if that sounded rude, but I just don`t understand why after 10 years you would decide to change your relationship? Why don`t you just stay in your self-pleasing relationship of cohabitation?


Anyway, anonymous:
I say go for it!
If it is a good step for your relationship, and you both (and your families and friends etc) feel that you are ready, and you know that you want to spend the next 70+ years with this person, then go for it! And have an incredibly happy marriage!
You don`t have to wait for 2 years, let alone 10 years to know that someone is the one!

Don`t believe these ppl who say that you have to be an old fogey to know what love is.
Most of the happily married couples I am surrounded by have been married since their late teens/early twenties, and as far as i know - none of them regret it at all.

And obviously you are going to change a lot between your teens and late twenties. However, if you are married, you should be able to grow and change together!
And again, for all those ppl who say dont get married when you are young because you will change - you will also change in your 30`s and your 40`s. And I`m sure when you are 50 you will be much much different from when you were 30. So what?
If you are married and happy in love, it doesnt matter what age you are. But as you change and grow, so should your relationship.

Many couples who have long engagements live as if they are married anyway, so getting married after ten years isn`t really changing that relationship at all, just putting on paper what you already know. If marriage is changing your relationship drastically you might want to think about a longer engagement, or be prepared for a rocky start. Ten years is a long engagement period, but they have probably worked out the daily problems that can ruin a marriage.