His Mom & Best Friend Will Not Accept Us

I was thinking perhaps your fiancee and you could arrange a dinner or lunch (somewhere not threatening for either cafe, resturant) with his mum and best friend (seperate occasions) and so you can stand united in your love for each other. Discuss your past but focus on your future together. Or if this wont work perhaps send a letter trying similar things..Hope all goes well GOOD LUCK

Just keep being as open as you can. Do they both know that he cheated on you too? How long have you actually been faithful to each other? Maybe a long long long engagement is a good idea.

If you are ready to throw in the towel after two months of the silent treatment, maybe marriage isn`t a good idea.

My advice? They will come around. It is really none of their business. They have the right to express their opinions about the wedding, but they are not you or your fiance. They don`t know what it really means to be in this relationship. If it is worth it to you two, and these people really love your fiance, they will see your marriage when it is successful and come around.

My only suggestion is try to make peace before the wedding. A wedding with people mad at the bride or groom is not going to set a good mood for the rest of your marriage. Also sit down and talk to his mom Just you and her. Get to the bottom of why she really dosent like you. Dont accuse each other or start an argument, just let her talk even if she says hurtful things, sit back and just listen to what she is saying. In the end you might find out what ever she is mad at you about probably has nothing to do with you at all. Even if it does let her get everything off her chest and no matter how upset she gets while telling you all this, just let her go on and on. I cant stress enough not to say anything but to just listen. After all is said and done and she says nothing eles explain to her how much you love her son and the past is the past, you love and charish him and want her blessing. More than thats what she wants. As for the best friend. Blah on him. If he cant see that you and your beau are happy then he can find a new best friend. Unfortuntly your stuck with a new mother and really need to work on that relationship. Just you and her. Noboby eles. Hope this helps.
Chastity

Good Luck Girl!
My mother -in- law hated me from day 1!
It`s been 10 years and the hatred gets worse.
Do some serious thinking before you tie the knot.

See thats what im talking about. What Mia just said. I have had the worst and the best of both worlds. The first was just a guy I dated very seriously for 6 years, his mom hated me. Thank God thats over with. Now my new honey is geat, and I love his mom. Its so nice having a future mother in law that you get along with. We talk everyday and I couldnt imagine having her hate me or hating her. I go back to my original saying, Dont marry him untill you and his mom resolve your differences because if you do you are in for really hard marriage. Eventually it will cause alot of strain on you and your husbands love.

Chas

Hi - I went through a situation slightly similar to this. Only my parents loved my boyfriend before he became my fiance, and once he proposed, for some reason, they turned their backs on me. They were not ready to see me go even though I was 25 at the time. It was very very difficult for the first two months of our engagement, and my fiance and I both realized it was becoming too much of our problem, when it reality it was my parent`s problem and not ours.
There is a big difference here between my situation and yours in that there was no cheating, and so I can see that perhaps your fiance`s mom and best friend don`t trust you. Remember that they most likely only know one side of the story, and they are undoubtedly biast, that is what mom`s and best friends are for afterall. However, in times like this, it is also their job to listen to your fiance, and to support his decision. I think the best philosophy I have learned in being a good friend is, you may not like what your friend does, but the best thing you can do as a friend is be there through thick and thin.
Although you ultimately feel guilty for your fiance`s friendship terminating, remember that this is not your fault. Unfortunately, your fiance is right in that if his best friend is not going to be there to support him, then he is going to lose him. And with that said, maybe he is not a best friend afterall..as painful as that may be for your fiance, it seems to ring true here.
The only advice I can give you is to continue to love your fiance, and profess your love. If you back down, as a result of their anger, you are only giving them what they want. And in the end, they will only lose more respect for you. If the fates have it for you two to marry, and you back away now, and later decide to try again, it will only be worse. Don`t lose faith, if you believe in your love, you have to stand up for it and prove to everyone that it is worth their blessings. Just don`t lose sight of what you`re fighting for. Sometimes we get too involved in the heat of arguments and hot tempers can lead you astray from where your heart actually is. Best of luck.
By the way, after three months of not speaking to my parents, they realized they wanted to be a part of my marriage. My mother became a huge part of the planning, and my father walked me down the aisle. It was the happiest day of my life.