My Mother -In -Law To Be

I dont think your crazy to not include her, but I do think you may want to invite her TO the wedding. This way, if she should be in the picture for a while, she did attend the event. Maybe make out an invitation to her "& GUEST". This way you let her know you dont necessarily approve of it but you are open to the idea as she is.

Good luck sweetie!

On the topic of mother in laws...I agree, you do not have to have her in the wedding unless your fiance really wants to include her...but if she`s demanding things that seems out of line. Maybe he can talk to her?
Can you help me with a mother in law issue??
My fiance`s parents are divorced and remarried. They haven`t been in the same room together in 12 years. His step mother is VERY antognistic and not really approvng of our interracial marriage so...to save myself more heartache she hasn`t met my parents yet. We are hosting the rehearsal dinner at my parents home (won`t be to her standards). I have already invited his mom and stepdad, grandparents. But I feel guilty for not inviting his father and step mom. What do you think is the best way to avoid conflict, I invite both, at staggered times?This is the most stressful part of the wedding!!!

I think we`re all having Mother-In-law problems!! Seems to be a theme, huh?? :-)

Well, a for the mom and "partner", I would invite the partner but you and your fiance do not want her to take part in the ceremony, I wouldn`t let her and I wouldn`t let myself to be pressured into including some I didn`t want to. This is YOU and YOUR FIANCE`S day!! Not one for someone else to show off or rock the boat.

As for the pre-wedding get together, I would try to invite everyone at separate times and explain to all parties why you are doing it that way. Tell them that you are doing it so THEY would be comfortable and at ease. Don`t tell them you are trying to avoid conflict, then they WILL get defensive.

My future Mother-In-Law is having trouble letting go of her "Baby Boy". He is the oldest and they have always been close so I think she is having trouble grasping that he is leaving her nest and going to someone else`s for good. But this is typical and to be expected. I`m just trying to grin and bear it.

I feel for all of you. I don`t have these issues since my future mother-in-law is deceased, but I do have some issues with our close friends. Soap opera is what I call it. Unnecessary drama is always so hard to deal with especially when it comes to something like your wedding day. The way we handled it was straight to the point. When asked if so and so was going to be there we said yes and if it is something that the person asking doesn`t like, we tell them not to come.I don`t have the patience to accomodate silly spats on my wedding day. We are inviting everyone we care about to the wedding. If they don`t like someone, they either keep their mouth shut or don`t come. Of course I am not exactly this blunt when I tell them but they understand and with a couple it has helped them deal with their feelings. Good luck to all!!!!

Well I am somewhat comforted by the fact that I am not the only one having in-law issuses, DID WE REALLY SIGN UP FOR THIS?! Thanks for the support !

PS. Ex-husband meets Ex-wife`s new girlfriend (I think I have you beat)