Pictures Before Or After The Wedding???

I totally agree. I think it would be awful to miss those first moments, when you`re walking down the aisle and your husband-to-be sees you for the first time in all your wedding finery, coming toward him. I wouldn`t do it any other way!

My fiance hasn`t seen my wedding gown, and I haven`t seen his tux. It will be that way until that moment when I`m on my way to him.

Best of luck!

K

Thanks guys!! I feel so much better about doing them after now. He hasnt seen my dress yet either and it would just have taken away from the whole point of him not seeing me before I walk down the isle! I am so glad we stuck with our gut instinct on this one, we will be much happier we did it that way in the long run. Thanks!!!!

I am doing the same for my wedding, I have had alot of people try to talk me into just having all of them done before the wedding, but I feel the same way and don`t want my fiance to see me before I walk down the asile. Don`t let anyone talk you out of it, do the separates before the wedding the the couples after the wedding. Everything will be fine.

I had my pictures taken before the wedding. Here`s how we did it. When I was fully ready, everyone left the dressing room and my wedding coordinator brought my then fiance into the room. We got to see each other for the first time in private, which I liked. We spend about 10 minutes just sitting and talking about the day to come. Afterwards, we went and took all pictures. I really liked doing it this way because I was more calm when it came to walking down the isle. I remember the entire ceremony and wasn`t a nervous ball of energy (which I hear most people are). I was really against the idea of getting pictures before hand until my coordinator suggested how.

The one disadvantage to taking the pictures before the wedding is that it makes for along day for the older adults and young children.

The advantage is that after the wedding, you aren`t whisked away for 1-2 hours for pictures, but you get to spend that time with your friends and family.

In the end, you know what you want and how you want to do it. Don`t let anyone push you into an idea that you know isn`t for you.

That sounds good how you did it, but my whole reason for doing it after the ceremony, is because I want to feel that overwhelming flow of emotions that I will only feel that once in my life. For him to see me from a distance for the first time while I am walking down the isle will be so emotional. And to me I guess thats the whole reason you dont spend the night together the night before because you are supposed to wait for that moment when you are walking down the isle.

But, not everything is so traditional anymore, so it sounds nice the way you did yours. I agree with everyone.....it should be the way you want it for your big day and no one should talk you into anything otherwise. If people have to wait, they should understand, but oyu should probably offer an Hor D` Oerves hour to begin, so eveyone has something to do.

I am a photographer and before i started photographing weddings i thought i would never want to see my fiance before the wedding. I went to a weddign that has changed my mind forever. The groom went down to the altar and waited while she walked down the isle to him. I was down near him to snap a few shots and he said i am the luckest man in the world. I started to cry. He was not nervous andthinking of everyone that was watching him during the ceremony. He was able to think of only her at that moment. The were given 15 min bythemselves just to enjoy eachother. After that they were calm and so happy. And we took all the pics before so when the ceremony was over they went and joined their guests at the reception and were not keeping everyone waiting. Plus your make up will look better.. Just kidding. But even after i put my two cents in it is still your wedding and if you dont want to see eachother before than dont let ANYONE change your mind. You are the one who will remeber this day for the rest of you life not the minister.

I am a wedding coordinator myself and I would never advise any of my couples to have the photographs before the ceremony. Some people re not bothered about seeing each other before the ceremony but still they are very nervous about the whole thing. And when you get the pictures taken at that stage, you can tell how nervous they are and the photos just never come out looking as nice and as natural as it does when you do it afterwards. My advice would be to get a few pictures of you with your family and bridesmaids and maybe a few of your fiance with his family and best man but to definitely leave the rest for afterwards. I guarantee you will both come out looking much more better and relaxed!

Good luck.

Hey girls!! I just got married 4 months ago. I`m back on here for ideas for my sister`s wedding now! Anyway I saw this topic and had to respond. I wanted to have our pictures AFTER the ceremony for all the same reasons you all stated. I wanted it to be a magnificent moment seeing each other for the first time walking down the aisle. Well my parents and my officiant and my photographer convinced us to do the pictures before the ceremony. I"M SO GLAD WE LISTENED TO THEM!!!! We got to have TWO magnificent moments instead of one! Seeing eachother for the first time for the pictures was overwhelming! Wow!! And THEN seeing each other for the ceremony was even more spectacular. I`m happy to say that having the pictures beforehand did not take away from the experience of the seeing each other at the ceremony. It was awesome! The other benefit was that after the ceremony instead of running off to do pictures we got to spend some time ALONE together as husband and wife for the first time. It was so special. We had champagne in a little private room and just enjoyed about 20 minutes of solitude. And then we were able to come out and enjoy the hor douvres with our guests. I`m so glad I didn`t waste all those precious moments after the wedding to do the pictures.