Bridesmaidzillas!!!
My sisters wedding is fast approaching, I am the MOH and am responsible for the shower and Bachelorette party. I wanted to host and plan the shower for her as she did as my MOH in my wedding almost three years ago. I live with my mother; she and I wanted to have the wedding shower at our house. When my sister told my mom that the shower was going to be co-ed that among other things caused them not to talk for a couple of weeks. Now the bridesmaidzillas have taken over my Shower planning. They decided without my input the;
* Location,
* Date,
* Theme & Style,
* Games,
* Who is bringing the tables and chairs,
* Who is doing the invitations,
* and the Menu.
My mom is so livid with these girls. She said she doesn’t want to have the shower at our house anymore. I told her to tell my sister to tell her bridesmaidzillas that they can plan the entire shower and host it elsewhere, because I am not going to piss off my sister by being rude to her friends. Their ideas are completely unconventional, they are planning this College Frat Party, not a shower. My sister is young and I realize that they are too, but this is getting out of hand.
How do I tell them that I am planning the shower and that they need to back off? If that means that they won’t help at all (financially) then fine. I just want to be the peacemaker here.
Posted by SaraLee_c777; updated 05/02/03
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Wel that is a rough situation. Have you talked to your sister about it to see what she wants. I know that a suprise shower is nice, but she may want to give her imput. Also your bridesmaidzillas can throw a separate shower (2 is better than 1) Or maybe they can host the bachelorette party and you can do the shower. You should definitaly talk to them about it.
Posted by April; updated 05/08/03
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Maybe find out what your sister really wants and let her know you need to clearly understand her expectations for your MOH position.
Posted by Holly M.; updated 05/08/03
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I cannot stand bridesmaidszillas!
Posted by layla; updated 05/21/03
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I think you should definitely remind the Bridesmaidzillas that your sister picked you as her MOH for a reason! Of course, you don`t want to be rude about it. Remind them that it is the duty of MOH & Brides family to coordinate, and that the Bridesmaids are there to assist. Schedule a meeting time and take control back of what is rightfully your duty. Assign them to do things at the shower (i.e. One could plan games, one is in charge of decorations, etc.) The suggestion above about having them plan the Bachlorette Party is a great idea! Tell them this is your sister and it means alot to you to plan it. As for the Co-ed shower...now-a-days it is becoming common for guys to attend. It makes the groom feel alot more comfortable than being surrounded by perfume. Plan games that would include the men. I have to say...this is your sisters` day, and what she wants should go. You`ll do a great job.
Posted by Cindy; updated 05/22/03
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Technically, neither the mother of the bride, the MOH, or any of the bridesmaids are supposed to give the shower.
According to ediquette, Aunts of the Brides or cousins are supposed to give the shower.
Posted by Cat; updated 05/30/03
