Help - Gift Etiquette
Help....
My husband and I secretly went to the courthouse and got married earlier this month. We only had two close friends that live in the area as witnesses and told the rest of our friends and family after the fact. We just purchased a new house and wanted to get the legal side of it out of the way, but plan to have a more formal ceremony next year for very close friends and family - maybe 25-30 guests.
My dilemma is that some of my close friends from where I grew up have sent only cards or nothing at all, even those whose weddings I was in and bought shower gifts, wedding gifts, dress, etc.....
I sent out announcements with pictures to my family and friends so they could update their contact info and many of them will not be invited to the next event either. Should they still be sending some sort of gift for our marriage or am I being greedy?
Also, for the couple of friends/family that have only sent a card and no gift - do I need to send a Thank you card to them?
Posted by Heather; updated 04/28/03
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A wedding announcement never requires any gift. It`s nice that they sent you a card. And no, you don`t need to send a thank you note when you receive a card.
Just out of curiosity, if you didn`t feel they were important enough to invite them to your wedding, and you also won`t be inviting them to the next ceremony in a year, why would you be expecting a gift from them???? It does seem greedy on your part. It seems like you have no interest in inviting them to celebrate with you and will end up disincluding them not once, but twice, yet somehow you feel slighted by not receiving a gift?
Posted by Lisette; updated 04/30/03
