Financial Oligations Of Bride And Groom Parents
I have aready over-filled my financial obligations on both of my daughters weddings in the last four years. My son was going to get married in the US and I know what my financial obligation would have been as the parent of the groom. What if the bride got mad at the grooms sister and decided to move the wedding out of the country, knowing the grooms sister could not financially attend, and the brides parents decided they would spend as much in one week out of the country on a "familymoon" as they would in one day in the US on a wedding and reception. The costs of the trip was way more than the grooms parents financial obligation of the wedding. My question is, what are the grooms parents now obligated to pay for since this less expensive wedding for the brides parents costs the grooms parents to overspend their obligation of the wedding just on the trip out of the country??
Posted by Cathy S.; updated 07/21/07
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MOB to MOG
I would not really worry about paying for anything if they did this out of spite. How many of your guest will make the trip??
I would simply offer my son a gift of money for his wedding and nothing else. Let them think what they want.
It sounds like the bride has been spoiled.
Good Luck
Tina
Posted by Tina; updated 07/21/07
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I think I would be very honest; if you can still afford the rehearsal dinner and groom`s cake, fine. Otherwise, I would not overextend yourselves financially and would tell the couple that you can only afford so much, and no more.
I find "destination weddings" such as this extraordinarily selfish, frankly, as they so often prevent family members and friends who would love to participate from doing so. (Now, if the couple is footing the bill for everyone, fine...)
Good luck. Sounds like you`ll need it, with a future daughter-in-law like this one!
Posted by Margaret; updated 07/21/07
