I Need Some Advice, Please Help.

When I married my husband almost 5 years ago, it wasn`t the wedding that I have always dreamed of. My mother thought the bridesmaid dresses I picked out were slutty, just because they were a halter style, but they had wraps to go with them. I got married before my older sister and she only showed up because my parents made her. She started saying things to me and I told her to not ruin my wedding day,but she did. She spent the whole time outside in the car. My father was mad because she was mad. My husbands sister was mad because he wasn`t yet 18. So noone was really happy that day,least of all me,the bride. I would like to renew our vows this year,whereas it will be our 5th anniversary. He doesn`t think our family will get along again for one day, so he doesn`t think it will be a good idea.
I need some advice how to convince him to go ahead with it and to be able to tell my family that if they try to ruin my wedding day again, I`ll never forgive them or speak to them ever again. I think that will be a little harsh, but I don`t know what else to do. I`m at my wits end. I also need help, seeing how my 5th anniversary is in just 5 months, how to have a beautiful wedding in such a short amount of time. I don`t even have a wedding video of it. My mother-in-law had one and she kept it. She didn`t even give me a copy of it. I don`t have a lot of money to spend on it, so I need some help. I love my husband dearly. We hurt a lot of people by not inviting them to the wedding, but we didn`t want anyone there were it wasn`t what we wanted. My mother still to this day, tells me how much I hurt a lot of people by not inviting them to my wedding, when she was one of them that ruined it for me.Your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life. Mine wasn`t! Please help if you can. Thank you so much. Thanks for taking the time to read this.

God bless you!!