Bridesmaid Doesn`t Get To Invite Boyfriend

Personally i feel that she should get to have a guest, i would tell the bride and groom that she should of been told sooner about not being able to invite a guest, cause she has already.
I know if i had told any of my ladies or gents that they couldnt invite someone with then they would have laughted at me and did it anyways. And i dont think a extra 32.00 is that much of a diffrence. Also i bet 10 to 1 there will be guest there that have some one with them that werent invited in the first place so one more person isnt going to kill there budget.
But however if they say no to her bf, they say "hell pay for is own meal then" ... If they still say no.. There there is another reason why they dont want him to go.

I hope I understood your message properly! I think that it is fair for whoever is paying for the wedding to choose who should turn up and who shouldn’t……and often hard decisions have to be made. If the decision to exclude the boyfriend just concerns money then the groom might feel happy inviting the boyfriend if he offers to pay.
I understand your daughter feeling awkward telling you that you are invited because if it is a formal wedding with invitations it would have been more polite for the couple to have given you an actual invitation so that you know that you are “properly” invited. Also it is rather tactless to let you know that you are required for baby sitting duties – without letting you know that they want the pleasure of your company first and foremost. Why not be mischievous and suggest giving your “informal” invite to the boyfriend.

Cat

I believe the boyfriend should be invited. I know weddings are expensive but if a bridesmaid is paying out for a dress, shower and all the other things that add up greatly she should be able to bring her other half. If the bride is worried about one more meal (although it is expensive) she shouldn`t expect her bridesmaid to pay more than $50 for a dress and not be upset if she doesn`t give a shower gift. Especially if her daughter is in this also! She has to purchase two gowns. This is my opinion and I think she should bring these points up to her friend.

I had to give my opinion on this one. Im having a wedding in NYC where plates run between a cheap $65.00 to...well sky`s the limit. Not to mention photography, video, dj or band, limos etc. I personally feel that if bridesmaid is invited that she shouldnt of assumed that the invite was for 2. She should of pull the bride over to the side and asked her if it would be alright to invite her guest before she told the guest that it was a done deal. Now the idea of mom babysitting well maybe the bf could switch with mom and handle that responsibilty. Mom could stay home and bf could go. As far as mom getting an invitation, I agree that she should of had a formal invite sent to her despite why she was going to the wedding. I have already informed my bridal party as well as all invites that the invitation could not be extended to include an additional guests or children. I am also including a slip of paper stating that "Regretfully so, we must inform you that due to limited seating, invitations can not extend to additional guests and/or children. Please respect our decision." Thats to nip in the bud those who have any idea that money grows on trees. Furthermore, as far as the bridesmaid, I believe that between having to run around and pose for pictures, watch over the favors or envelopes and get involved with bridal party responsibilities that it doest leave any time to entertain her date.