Children In Wedding
A very close frien of mine is getting married and she would like all of my kids in the wedding, she has places for all of them but one. She would like for her to walk down the aisle and give a gift to the mothers. As a "special" part of the wedding. Her Mother thinks that this is improper and that my daughter should not have a part? Is this wrong?
Posted by jen; updated 04/03/03
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Your daughter should have a part in the wedding if the bride wants her to. But it is definitely improper for your daughter to give gifts to the mothers from the bride. First of all gifts should not even be given out at the wedding ceremony. They should be given beforehand, preferably at the rehearsal dinner. Secondly, the bride needs to give her mother her gift herself. She needs to find a role appropriate for a child. How old is your daughter?
Posted by Rachel; updated 04/07/03
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I don`t see anything improper about acknowledging your mothers DURING the wedding and if your friend is comfortable with this then so should you. Does your daughter like the idea? I plan on having a special gift given to my mother, step mother and mother in law at my wedding. The wedding is to be the way the bride and groom make it there are no rules and restrictions
Posted by Nakia; updated 04/08/03
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Why would a bride want some little kid who isn`t even related to hand out the bride`s gifts to the mothers? This seems weird to me. I agree with Rachel, the bride should give her mother her gift herself.
Posted by Danalee; updated 04/08/03
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My daughter is 8, she is one of my 4 children who are to be in the wedding. We are very close, LIKE FAMILY almost. My friend wants a special part for her because one of them is a jr bridesmaid and the others are ringbearer and flower girl. The bride intends on giving other things to the Mothers but a special something during the ceremony.
Posted by jen; updated 04/08/03
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I can`t see that a child giving mothers presents is in any way improper. However the whole point of this gesture is to thank the mothers...and if one of them strongly disagrees with the method by which they are thanked then it kind of defeats the object of the exercise. Mothers shouldn`t be given too much control!! but in this particular case perhaps your friend could find another useful task for your child.
Hope it all works out well
Cat
Posted by cat; updated 04/09/03
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I`m in the same boat, except that it is neices from my fiance`s side of the family. I solved it very easilyby having a Jr. Bridesmaid and 2 flowergirls. The eight year old is sort of "in charge" of the two year old. This seemed to be the easiest solution for me!
Posted by Sarahsue; updated 04/10/03
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I had this problem with my first wedding.
If she has a train on her gown your daughter could be a train bearer. She holds her train for her while she walks down the aisle then stands beside the flower girl during the ceremony. I had a close friends daughter do this and she did a wonderful job and the guests thought she was adorable. Just an idea.
Posted by Sissy; updated 04/20/03
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Just a thought, i have heard of Bell Boys at the wedding who come down just before the bride, ringing a bell to announce that she be entering, well why not a Bell Girl? I think that would be a cute idea.
Posted by Heidi Lyn; updated 04/25/03
