Battling Bridesmaids
Hello out there! I need some advice. I am the maid of honor in my dearest friend`s wedding and I`ve been having a little trouble w/ some of the bridesmaids. A few of them are being less than cooperative and I need some advice. I`m planning a shower to be given by the bridesmaids. I did some research and came up w/ great invite ideas and theme unfortunately none of the other bridesmaids liked it. A few of them had their own ideas while some opted not to participate. One even told me she didn`t even want to be in the wedding. There is a lot of animosity among the group and the bride keeps getting caught in the middle. I don`t want her to but I don`t know how to keep her updated without the obstacles that I`ve run into. I want this shower to be great and I just don`t know how to smooth the path for the rest of the planning. I think I should just pay for the rest myself in order to avoid any more drama. I am frustrated b/c in other situations I think that there would be more than one shower to plan therefore everyone could do what they want for a shower. Unfortunately, that`s not the case. What should I do to keep my sanity through all of this planning chaos? Should I just let the other bridesmaids do what they want or as the maid of honor, and sole planner, should I take the reigns agains despite their whining and plan this shower the way I want to? Help Please
Posted by ali; updated 03/30/03
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If these bridesmaids are adults or teenagers, you won`t be able to get them to conform to a masterplan. Try meeting with them in a group and try to thrash out some kind of consensus which everyone is happy with - people are more likely to co-operate if they feel they can make a personal contribution. If some individuals refuse to co-operate with group plans then tactfully suggest that they may wish to make some individual contribution towards the bride`s wedding plans - don`t let them halt the progress of the group. Easier said then done, I know. Good luck!
Posted by cat; updated 04/09/03
