Am I Too Young To Get Married?
Well, I am 19 years old and I have known my boyfriend for 5 years, since freshman year in HighSchool. He`s also 19. We hooked up our sophmore year and borke up the same year. We hooked back up after graduation2006 and been together ever since I have loved him my entire HighSchool years. We both entered the Millitary and now want to marry. We have been together 1-1/2, but offically for a year only. One month out of the whole year, we have been physically together one month. Now I think if we dealt with distance pertty good and still love eachother we have something good and strong witch I have no doubt about. Im in Hawaii and he`s in Texas we also want o marry cuz we love each other and so we can finally be together. What do you think? are we to young. Is it to soon? My mother say`s to get my degree 1st then marry, I dont see why I couldn`t get my degree and be married at the same time. What do you think about that?
Posted by Nessa; updated 06/02/07
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Hi Nessa
I think since you have only actually been together for one month physically in the past year, and you weren`t dating for 4 years before that, you need to actually spend more time together before you marry.
A long-distance relationship is not a good indicator of whether a day-to-day relationship will work. Yes, you are still in love, but you aren`t dealing with the everyday problems and even the everyday routine things that you deal with when you`re actually in the same town, house, or room.
Your mother has a valid point about getting your degree first. No matter how good your intentions, it`s so easy to get sidetracked. You might get pregnant, or you might decide it`s too hard to work and go to classes and hardly ever see each other, even though you`re married.
Conventional wisdom says: if it`s real, it will still be there when the time is right for you to marry.
Sincerely,
Maggie
Posted by Maggie; updated 06/06/07
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Nessa,
Like you, I was in a similar situation. My fiancée and I were high school sweethearts then my last year of high school I moved across the country. Once finished high school, I moved back to the east coast and we both went to college at different schools. This by far was the hardest time for us. I strongly recommend waiting until after school. It makes actually living together so incredibly special. I don’t want to sound like your grandmother I just turned 23 but each part of your life needs to be lived. I am NOT saying go out and date other people you need to see who else is out there. I Heard that sooo many times and well it really ticked me off I knew my guy was the one, but I also felt it was important to experience life on my own first. I met friends that aren’t mutual friends I was able to focus on schooling and just being on my own. I just graduated from college and now we live together and are planning our fall wedding. As great as life is going to be with your guy you need some time to live on your own not being concerned with having to go home at X o’clock because someone is waiting for you. Your parents will also back off after school is done (and that is so helpful to be able to call mom and actually have her help with the planning not lecture me on how I should wait). If you are ready to marry him today, you will be ready to marry him later. A lifetime with someone is so special. Congratulations on finding the man of your dreams
Lindsey
Posted by Lindsey; updated 06/07/07
