Help!!! Bridal Dilemma!!!
Is it in poor taste for a girl that`s only been engaged for less than a month to plan a large, extravagant wedding two weeks before her sister`s wedding in October, which has been scheduled for several months now? I have been engaged since last fall, set my date several months ago, and my sis has just announced she`ll be marrying two weeks before my scheduled nuptials and that it`s the ONLY possible time she can do it.
I would understand if the circumstances were such that the wedding needed to be bumped up (i.e. Pregnancy, military deployment, life-threatening illness of someone in the wedding party), but they`re not. She`s already bought a dress, hired a caterer, etc. In record time, doing what most brides would take several months to do.
Am I wrong to feel a bit slighted that her wedding plans have suddenly overshadowed my wedding? She`s behaving as if her impending nuptials are more important than mine and seizes every opportunity she can to play hers up while belittling mine. I`m thrilled she`s found someone to love and is ready to settle down, but her behavior as of late has me concerned.
Posted by susanna; updated 03/26/03
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Hi Susanna,
I have to agree. I would be upset if my sister decided to get married two weeks before me. Considering you have had it planned for some time now. Have you tried talking to her about how you feel?
Posted by T.; updated 03/27/03
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I understnad where your coming from.. I would be upset.
I think you need to sit her down and tell her" this isnt fair.i had picked my day, have things planed before you and i feel your taking that day away from me. Why can t you have it after mine. Even a couple days after mine."
I think its ruid that she just got engaged and already planned her wedding before you , that is rude. I think she should of though of your feelings too.
I personally would think the day is getting taken way from me. The attention also her you already had a day and your sister gets the glory of having her s first and just planed hers
Posted by mandee; updated 03/27/03
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Oh Girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would be absolutely furious. There is absolutely NO EXCUSES for her behavior. Me, being the venidictive person that I am, would sabotage her wedding (in a small way), but I don`t expect that of a normal person...so my advice to you is talk to her about it.....at least make her cry or feel guilty...that is the least she deserves. It may not solve anything, but you may feel a little better. Also, know that it is my opinion that everybody attended both weddings will see and understand what your sister has done, and they will look upon your big day with a little more respect.
Posted by Joni; updated 03/28/03
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I would kill my sister!!! Well you could elope and wait until the day of her wedding to tell everyone. Payback!! This is probably the last thing you want to do but how about a double wedding? It would probably be cheaper, easier on some of the guests and family that would be attending both weddings and you wouldn`t be so " belittled". Just a thought! Best of luck to you and I hope everything works out!
Posted by sara; updated 04/25/03
