Is This Right??
Hello im bit on the fustated side, my fiancee and are getting married next month (april) . Nate has asked his "best" friend josh to be his best man.
Josh and his fiancee is also getting married next month , he is having his dad be his best man. They are gettng married on the 12th we had picked the 18th BUT changed it when we found out it was when they would be on there honeymoon so josh can be in are wedding.
We had decied before them to get married , then right after we got engaged they got engaged.
I think they are on the mad side because we are getting married on the same month. We arent talking the day away from them , we dont even have any of the same guest as them. Ever since nate told josh he cant go over to there house everyday like we did before he met me and drink beer,and cant go snowboading every free time he has, josh acts like hes way to good for him or i.
I know josh dont hate me.
I really dont know what to think . But im upset we arent invited to there wedding we sent them a invitation but there isnt one in are mail box. Or even a phone call telling us where it is. I dont think thats fair, or a " BEST" friend.
Everytime i bring it up nate covers josh`s ass saying maybe hes been really busy....even though josh hasnt had nothen to do w/ his own wedding. Stuff like that.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?? AM I MAKING THIS BIGGER THEN IT IS?? SHOULD I SAY SOMETHING TO JOSH?? PLEASE HELP I JUST GET UPSET KNOWING WE HAVE ASKED THEM TO COME TO ARE WEDDIGN AND NOT TO THERES.
Posted by MANDEE; updated 03/21/03
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I think josh is selfish it sounds, is the only child?? it also sounds like if he doesnt get his way he throws a fit. If the attentions isnt on him at all times he doesnt want no part of it.
You need to call him and give him your thoughts. Tell him "just because my man found someone to love doesnt mean you you have to stop being his friend .
Posted by rose; updated 03/24/03
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Hi Mandee, Its understandable that you feel upset and confused by the behavior of your best man and his fiancee, especially since you have gone to the trouble of altering your wedding date to accommodate their plans, and it is usual to invite good friends to weddings unless of course space is limited. (Are you sure that the invite didn`t get lost in the post ). However the role of the best man is to help the groom and if nate is happy with josh and if josh is quite happy to do the task then josh is the man for the job. Also, wedding invitations should be freely given, no strings attached – a couple should not feel obligated to invite everyone they have received invites from.
It might be an idea to talk to josh before the wedding to clear the air – but only if you are able to do it in a way that is not confrontational. Otherwise air your grievances with understanding friends who won’t gossip about this. Unless you have another best man lined up – you don’t want to risk losing this one at this stage in the proceedings.
Posted by cat; updated 04/09/03
