Need Help W/ My Bossy Mother

You need to sit down with her & discuss this one on one with her. Let her know it`s YOUR day not her`s & EXACTLY what is expected of her. If you let her bully you or run roughshod over people then you`re going to feel guilty because you didn`t have a say in the decisions that were YOURS to make.
Hope this Helps
Tami
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Thank you for the advice.. Its hard to talk to my mother, she lives in Ca. But she will be here early for the wedding.
Plus, im not used to talkng back to my mother and telling HER whats going on and how its getting done.

I totally understand my Mother is the Same way & she lives not 15 minutes from me. But you`re not being bossy or demanding but you can`t be walked on Either. My Fiancee is like yours he doesn`t agree with how she acts & tells her when she`s out of line.
Hope I`m helping
Tami
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Thanks for giving me advice, i will take in in prospective.. I do need to stand strong.
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It is correct ettiquete for the Mother of the Bride to stand first , the everyone else stands.They are suppose to be seated in the front row of course and even have there own music(song) to be seated to before the wedding.At my wedding the song the mothers and grandmothers were seated to was Paschebel in Canon D

I can definitely relate to you. My Mother is paying for 1/2 the Reception Hall and 1/2 of my Wedding Dress. For this reason she believes she has say in other decisions that are made throughout planning the remainder of the wedding. For instance, my parents are divorced and my mother actually thinks she`s going to walk me down the isle instead of my father. This is total ludicrous and I won`t have anything of the sort. My Father says if my Mother thinks she`s going to do that he won`t even show up. I am very strong when it comes to my mother, but I am so appauled that she would even suggest anything so ridiculous......... I haven`t said anything concrete to her yet, aside from the casual no your not. Any advice?

My parents are also divorced. No one demanded anything about this, but it was always assumed that Dad would walk me down.

However, I want for both of them to be included (I am their only daughter), so both of them are very pleased that they will both be walking down the aisle with me.

Have you considered this option, or are your parents too uncomfortable to even be near each other?

K

Michelle ........if the mother of the bride is subpose to stand first how are you going to let the other guest know this!!
I DONT wnt my mother you yell" IM SUBPOSE TO STAND FIRST!!!!!" AT MY WEDDING.
"i can just see it now" =0( uuuugghhh

Hi Kim,

No, that`s definitely not an option. Unfortunately, my parents don`t even speak to one another. They`ve only been divorced for two years and my mother still has a sore spot about the whole thing. My father just doesn`t want to be anywhere near her. Thanks for trying to help though, much appreciated.

One more thing, what do you gals mean by,"who gets to stand first." I`m 27 and never been married before, so this is all very new to me. Thanks.

Well, T was far as im thinking , the mothers get to stand first when you come down the isle. Before the guest. Thats what im getting in my post.
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Hey do you have a wedding coordinator that know the proper ettiquette? If so she can handle all the problems that come up like this. The mother stands as you start to come down the aisle, AS SOON as she stands everyone else stands up then . Its not like she is standing by herself for a long time.

Thats makes alot of since.. I like that.. Ill just have the moms stand before i walk the isle
I dont have a cordnator..

At my wedding I hada trumpet and organ playing , and I had the Bridal fanfare (song)start and when that started the moms knew to stand , because the double doors were being opened by the guys for me and my dad to walk down the aisle then, as soon as the doors opened everyone else stood up.there is not that much difference just like a couple of seconds before everyone else stands up.I guess its a respect thing for the moms.....

At my wedding I hada trumpet and organ playing , and I had the Bridal fanfare (song)start and when that started the moms knew to stand , because the double doors were being opened by the guys for me and my dad to walk down the aisle then, as soon as the doors opened everyone else stood up.there is not that much difference just like a couple of seconds before everyone else stands up.I guess its a respect thing for the moms.....

The Mother of the Birde is to stand first yes, but it is the way to let everyone know that you are ready to walk down the aisle. It isn`t a hey look at me thing, it is proper etiquette and most people know this.